Today, I had a conversation with my neice who seems to be an off day. One of her friend's father met with an unexpected death leaving him alone, while his academic exams are in few days. It was a sad moment for her and as well as for the boy. But she is more upset with the boy friends activities, who were seems to be enjoying the last day of the school with sum fun moments outside and posting the picture on social media. Even though they were aware of the tragic incident. They aren't missing their friend in their enjoyment, neither they stopped themselves from posting their activity on social media platform. My neice feeling pity for the poor kids, as the situation shows them the true nature of friendship.
Even I started wondering, is that is what is called friendship?
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It also reminded me one of the instance, when I was looking for a little financial assistance in middle of the months from a school friend, but he denied. Even when I was handing him a cheque for the next months. I had faith him and had some nice moment while we were in school. That day, I really felt sorry for our friendship. May be I had a bitter moment in my friendship. But it was not all the time, as in later stage, I met some really nice people who gel with me and becomes a good friend. They alwsys stands by my side and so does I. We really had some memorable moment, we went out of trip, we had our enjoyment. This made me to belive that just finding that right person will make us happy and fulfilled.
A friend in deed is friends indeed
After going through some painful bitter moment with friendship during my tough times in life, literally pulled away my faith from making friends. I started making contacts only for work and official purposes. Because, it was hard to find a true friends, when people have a competitive lifestyle. Or may be I was missing something. I have seen if you are ready to spend money on others then you can make good number of friends. But they are the selfish bunch of friends. They were the first one who backs off while you needed them most.
A true friend is someone who have good trust and with whom we share a deep level of understanding and communication. There are always some basic points that makes a true friends.
- A good friend is loyal, trustworthy, and respectful.
- A good friend is always there for each other, no matter what.
- Doesn't judge each other.
- They always bekind and respectful to each other
- Supports each other, and has empathy for each others
(In my neice friends case, they all went for fun, on the day of their friends father demise, they could have postponed it, or not have posted on social media)
Challenge in making a Friend
Friendships have a huge impact on your mental health and happiness. Presence of a good Friends in life bring more happiness into our lives than virtually anything else. I happen to struggle to find some good friends in real life. In the era of advanced technology, we can make friends or new connection with the click of a button. May be like me many of us have 100 of online friends through different social media platform. But we could not develop a powerful connection. If we take our #Hive example, how many of us have seen any example of a true friendship. We know each other but never met face to face. So to make it a priority to stay in touch in the real world, not just online.
Friends - Group of Close pals
Developing close friendships can always have a powerful impact on our physical health. A friends relieve stress, provide comfort and joy, and prevent loneliness and longevity. This can only be possible when there is a close group of people with similar unterest surround us. I have now a very close knit of friends. And alwsys organize a get together to meet each other. Fewer is better, as we develop a good vibes among each other. We have known each other aince many years now and respect about each other’s values, struggles, goals, and interests.
The major challenge, arises when we unable to develop such bonding or unable to find people of similar interest. It took me good amount of time to know each other and now have strong bond.
The bottom line: If the friendship feels good, it is good. But if any person tries to control, or create drama, or bring negativity just get over them.
