If there is one thing we should always be grateful for, it should be waking up everyday to sound health and without any fear from the past because of illnesses or incidents that we can’t let go easily. This is to say that we don’t have any fear 😨 that can make us react in a certain way and have never experienced any.

PTSD/ Trauma is never a thing to be joked with because many people are suffering from this syndrome in many different ways due to some life experience, sickness and victimization they have gone through. Although, those who go through this syndrome experience them in different ways, but I tell you that its not fun 🤩 and should be taken so seriously 😳.

We can only get to understand people better than we know them if only we get to also know their past and why they act the way they do. And not just conclude with our own opinions once they react in a way we don’t like because everyone has a past, some still hurting , victimized, traumatized either from sicknesses or fear 😨 of a kind. So we need to always pay attention to people like this and try to understand where they are coming from and what they have encountered in the past.

This story am about to tell happened to a girl friend of mine many years back. In fact, it happened while we were still in the university days. A guy was dating my friend then and along the line she became madly in love 🥰 with this guy as their relationship entered into the third year and we were about to graduate 👨‍🎓 then. With the hope that this guy also loved her, she was hoping that she was already secured for marriage. And honestly, everything seem so perfectly that everyone who knew them was hoping for them to be together at the end.

And suddenly, in the forth year of their relationship something unexpected happened. This guy travelled one Christmas and went for his traditional wedding without my friend knowing because he usually travel to go and see his parents at every end of the year. And when he came back from the Christmas trip, he started behaving funny. He stoped telling my friend his schedules but after few weeks has to summon the courage to speak to my friend about his traditional marriage. The bottom line was that his parents forced him to marry from their town. It sounded funny 😄, because this was a full grown man .

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To cut the story short, my friend tried to commit suicide because of the shame she might face from those who knew them. Before this incident, my other friends who were also her friends and I had talked a lot of sense into her head, wanting her to believe that that guy was not meant for her. We told her how this guy who acted in such a way can never be who God want her to settle for. But you know how cruel the heart ♥️. And how the devil 😈 will always tempt us. She tried to kill herself but was saved by a neighbor who was monitoring her during this that period.

In all , she was never the same after the incident. She became a different person, retrieve herself from the world 🌎. Isolated herself from friends and was giving up to life. For so many years , she was dealing with fear 😰 of death, traumatized by what she experienced. It was only by the grace of God that after almost five (5) that she came back to her sense to pick up from where stopped. And as God will have it, He sent an Angel 😇 her way who cherished her like a queen 👸.

Life is so hard and even harder for so many who has experienced all kinds of traumatic encounters. Many are suffering from past nightmares and are struggling to come out from them. We need to always take a pause to look at the person who we see with sad emotion. Those who always try’s to isolate themselves. Those with fear 😨 at all times . There is always a past experience these ones can not over come on their own. They are suffering in silence and need someone’s attention.

This is my response to the #hiveleaners featured content for week 218, edition 03.