What a great topic from #hivelearners to kick start off this week as we all know how many are suffering from mental health but can’t help themselves especially those who are stocked with situations they can’t help.
There is nothing ever better than being at peace with ourselves at all times because its very important we know how anxiety and anxiousness kills slowly without many noticing. Therefore sound mental health is that wellness and well - being that brings us a desired state of mind and helps us live a well balanced lifestyle
Mental health is one of the most important thing that concerns living, a part of our lives we most times see as nothing and neglect so much due to how its invisible but one that brings so much torture to us if we don’t take action to quickly handle and arrest it.
Making sure to manage different kinds of stress that we encounter in our every day activities, taking actions when necessary and towards decision making , staying focus and maintaining healthy and physical lifestyle are all those around us look 👀 out for when they need proof as regards to how healthy and sound we are mentally. When we maintain a good relationship with people and can decide on what is wrong and what is right, we are establishing to those around us that we are sound mentally.
But most times life is not easily lived as planned because obstacles are always lurking around us through one problem or the other. Situation of things we have control off can suddenly turn south. Promises are broken bringing anxiety 😥 and even most of all, failures that chatters hopes, making one to be caught up in situations that leads to serious mental illness.
Few years ago I suffered some mental illness which was related to a situation that involves family. Like many use to say from the old saying that family is not by blood 🩸 and I got to believe this saying through this very situation. I had a brother cousin who is very rich and still rich up until now but who I saw as a monster 👹 after what he did to me.
In the cause of my work as a Realtor I helped him to manage a building while the place was being developed few years back, and our agreement wad that he will settle me with some large sum of money 💰 at the completion of the project, so he was then just giving me some funds for transportation at every end of the month. I helped this guy to protect every materials that the Engineers would have used in leaping him off, protected cost 💲 of excess materials when purchases are being made all in the name that he is family and a brother. But at the end of almost two years when the building was completed with almost a billion , this guy said I should wait for the house to be leased out. And due to how the economy was, the building stayed for a longer period without lease. And from this one thing leads to another that started affecting me mentally. All the plans I had for my family was put on a hold and it became a thing of one story or the other.
And as time went by, my cousin started letting the flats out one by one , trying to recover some money he invested . Letting not being lease that will bring huge some of money 💰, he practically did not want to listen to me concerning our agreement. And the worst being that I had plans of how to also invest the money I was expecting. From months to a year, and things was already going south as I kept dragging the issue with him to settle me. He ignored me up until into 2 years but doing his own thing. It was so much torture for me , thinking of how a brother could do this to me. And many family members were also blaming me for not to have stole from him while work was going on. But that is not my kind of person.
And through this mental stress and lack of focus my life was becoming a nightmare because of all the plans I had set out due to how the fund would have been big which would have helped me establish a very big business.
And one day few years back I just told my immediate family that am going to forget I ever had something to do with this cousin of mine after I have made up my mind to move forward with other opportunities I had my way. It was like a joke when my sisters and brothers had it. But I had already made up my mind to stay off that toxic expectation which then was becoming a torture. My mental health and well-being was my priority then which I needed to work on and focus on the future. And that was exactly what I did.
I could say it was the best ever decision I had ever made in life because it was very difficult 😞. And for the past three (3) years my cousin and I have not talked. Earlier this 2024, he went about telling some family members that he wants to settle me, but the year is almost ended. And I do not even care about his settlement because it does not worth it again. I want him to live all his life carrying the guilt.
I have since however moved on with life, free like a bird 🦅 and enjoying my life thanks to my family and loved 🥰 ones.
This is my response to the #hiveleaners featured content of week 142, edition 01 topic, tagged “FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
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