One thing I don't understand is why females are always blamed for all problems in marriage. Infertility in marriage? They blame the woman. Giving birth to only female children in marriage? They blame the woman. Are some people so dumb to know that women are not the only problem and men can be infertile too?
Recently, I read online about a man who beat his wife just because she gave birth to a female child for the third time. Ignorance is a disease. I hope those men can read more to broaden their knowledge. How is it the woman's fault to give birth to a female child? Is a female child not a child?
We have something called chromosomes. What is a chromosome?
A chromosome is a structure within the cell nucleus that carries genetic information in the form of DNA. Females typically have two X chromosomes (XX), and males have one X and one Y chromosome (XY). The mother always contributes an X chromosome, while the father can contribute either an X or a Y chromosome, determining the child's sex.
X chromosome is a female child while Y chromosome is a male child
The woman will only contribute X, while the man can contribute X or Y. If the man contributes X, the woman will give birth to a female child. If the man contributes Y, the woman will give birth to a male child. So, whose fault is it? It's what the man contributes that determines the child's sex.
Medically, this is what happens. But with God, it's God who gives children. So, why should all the blame be on the woman? Who changed our mindset, especially in Africa, to believe that male children are more important than female children?
I've seen a family that gave birth to five children, just because they were looking for a male child. After five children, the man still went out and married another woman. The woman he married still gave birth to three females. Because he only contributed X chromosomes to the woman. But people will still continue to blame the woman.
My advice to women is that don't marry a foolish man. A foolish man will continue to believe that everything that happens in the marriage is the woman's fault. If the man is doing well before marriage financially and things eventually change for him after marriage, some people will still blame the woman for it.
Africa will say the woman's leg is bad, that's why things changed for the man financially. Many women have died because of this. They continue to stay in a violent marriage because of what people will say. Please leave what they will say; it's not worth your life.
No one is to be blame for a child gender , whether male or female both child is from God. And no child is better than the other.
Women should stop losing their lives because of what a foolish man chooses to believe. I have a family in front of my house; they gave birth to three female children, and they're living happily together. No child is better than the other. Some people just need to change their mindset and seek knowledge so they can stop blaming women for everything.
Woman, know your worth, value your life, and leave any marriage that doesn't give you peace. Your peace of mind matters; your life matters.