In the intricate canvas of love, we on some occasions undergo some unpalatable treatments that defy all sense of fairness and make us begin to wonder why and what we could have possibly done to deserve such. For me, one of such moments still lingers in my mind as though it were just yesterday, and till date, I still can't fathom why I was treated in such a way by someone who ought to do the opposite. It really hurts, and today I'll be sharing some insight with you on that and if I've moved on.
Like I said in one of my previous articles, while growing up, I stayed with my grandparents and not with my parents like my other siblings, and this means I got to relate with some of my aunts and uncles who stayed with my grandparents or visit often. I wasn't the only grandchild who stayed with them then; I had a cousin sister, Damilola, who, along with me, stayed with them. While my grandparents will treat us equally, the same isn't the case with my aunts and uncles.
On several occasions, they'll just treat Damilola like royalty, not letting her do any house chores, and they expect me to do everything, sometimes I wonder what I might have done to warrant such, and no matter how far I think, there's no justifiable reason. Although, growing up, I kind of feel like they're maltreating me because they've had misunderstandings with my dad, I think they're immature for torturing a child for his dad's offense.
Those happenings and the unfair treatment make me resent them because, aside from loading me with all the house chores, they'll still find reason to pick offense at something I did and flog me for it. Even when they go out, they only buy things for Damilola and nothing for me. As a child, I was hurt, and there's nothing I can do about it.
Even though my grandparents don't know about this, I can't help but beg my dad to please come take me away from there anytime he pays us a visit, because there's no telephone back then, so there's no means of communication than when you see physical, and when that happens,I still have to be mindful of my words because those who maltreat me were always around to hear our conversation.
Well, fast forward a few years. During the school holiday, one of my aunts, who used to treat me unfairly, needed someone to help her with loads of work at her place. She managed to convince my grandparents that I should come and spend the holiday period at her place. Since they agreed, I had no choice but to go, and that's when another form of unfair treatment came up.
The same aunt is the mother of Damilola, the other girl that stayed with me at my grandmother's place then. I arrived at her place, and I was welcomed with a lot of work like washing clothes of every member of the family, wash plates, farming, running errands, cutting the grass, and several other ridiculous tasks that were beyond my age back then. On top of that, she'd only give me a handful of food. Her daughter, on the other hand, would just sit around the house doing nothing, which hurt and even instigated me to hate Damilola back then.
To cut a long story short, after spending a month at her place, I was looking skinny and malnourished, and when it was time for me to go back to my grandparents place, she started looking for means via which she'd be seen as a good person who treated me well, so one day she came to the parlor where I used to sleep with different used clothes and trousers and asked me to try them on. I did, and I realized most of those clothes belonged to my cousin's Damilola.
She kept saying they look great on me, even though they're obviously girly clothes. While I could turn down some, she insisted I take some, so I did and kneeled down to appreciate her kind gesture, and then on the day she was taking me back home, she insisted I wear one of the female clothes she gave me, but as we were going along the way, she noticed how different people were staring at me, so she got the message and decided to buy me another cloth.
We were on the bridge in the middle of the busy road when she brought me the clothes and made me change my clothes on that same spot. I felt embarrassed, but I know what she's capable of, so I changed into the new clothes in public and then appreciated her for buying me new clothes, though I couldn't kneel to show my appreciation because it was a busy road and I didn't want a car to run me over because I wanted to show my appreciation.
Unknown to me, that me not prostrating to appreciate annoys her, but she didn't show it until we got home, then she reported me to my grandparents and uncles, who scolded me for being an ingrate. I tried to make them understand and see the reasons why I couldn't kneel down in that place, but her lies superseded my truth, and for that particular event and several others, I despise her back then for her unfair treatment towards me.
Fast forward to the present day, and I won't say we're best friends even though we're family, and that's because her actions towards me back then made me withdraw myself from anything that had to do with her, although I've forgiven her and the others who treated me unfairly back then, and once in a while we relate as family, even though I don't want anything that makes the bond grow more than that.
It wasn't easy for me to move past what they did to be because each time I remember, I still can't pin points a reason why they did what they did, but then I guess with time it all fades away gradually, although I had to create a distance between me and themselves for that to be easy, because seeing them then reminds me of the pain, but keeping my distance helps me sail through with time.
Also to show I've moved on from those moments, in the present day most of them call me whenever they need financial support, either for themselves or their children, and I'm always open to help whenever I can, although it's somewhat funny because I do wonder if they already forgot how they treated me then, because if I were the one who did that, I wouldn't have the confidence to approach someone I hurt for help.
HPUD
Has it's the beginning of another month, today I'll be joining the host of other Hivers to power up some hive in accordance with my hive goals for the year 2024.
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So this month's, I powdered up 20 Hive, and that took my Hive power from, 8421 HP to 8441 HP, this is a step towards my ultimate goal for the year, and now I'm hoping to at least be able to acquire 300 Hive power in this new month, so I'll be more closer to reaching my 14,000 Hive power goal for this year.
That's all for now on this subject matter. I hope you enjoyed the read as you read through my ordeals of unfair treatment during my childhood days. Have a wonderful day ahead, and stay blessed.
HPUD photos are screenshot from my Peakd wallet, while the first 4 Thumbnail were designed on canva