Learning and unlearning is one thing we should do often as humans, because, like we all know, knowledge is power, and you definitely need to learn to gain knowledge. However, despite knowledge being power, we can't disregard the fact that there are some things we've learned in the past that aren't too resourceful in the present day, and for that reason, we need to unlearn such so as to create room for new knowledge. I'm no exception in this regard because through the years I've, on several occasions, learned, unlearned, and relearned some things for different reasons, and in this write-up today, I'd be talking about the most recent one.
Lately I've been in the habit of learning and at the same time unlearning some things, especially when it comes to my habit and how I lived my life during my bachelor days. I mean, it's well known how most bachelors live their lives, which are mostly centered around themselves and living life freely without caring how their actions, lifestyle, or decisions affect others. I can vividly remember how I can decide not to eat, and it won't affect anybody; how I can decide to go out and come back late without having to think someone would be worried; and how I can spend my earnings without thinking how my management, savings, or investment might affect someone else.
So that's about what I'm unlearning, talking about what I'm learning now. Presently I'm learning and adjusting to the lifestyle of that of a husband and a father; to be honest, it's not an easy journey or process adjusting to this new lifestyle, but I'll sure get there and hope to get better by the day. Presently I'm learning to be more family oriented and more intentional and cautious of my every decision, action, and all that I do. Now I'm learning to live a life that's not centered on just me, but on my wife and family, and to do that, I'm learning to adjust decisions relating to my time and priorities, because I know each one I take directly impacts those I love.
It's worth knowing that this change in thinking via my learning and unlearning has been not just motivating but also humbling; it does this because it helps me understand that my role in life goes beyond just my personal life and goes on to bring about realization of how my role goes on to cut across my responsibility, commitment, and care. So I'm in the phase of learning to embrace this responsibility fully, especially with the knowledge that I no longer live for myself alone anymore, but for my family that cherishes and relies on me.
I believe learning this will bring about fulfillment for me in this phase of my life; it'll make me become a better person, not that I wasn't a good person during my bachelor days, just that I'm in a brand new phase that demands intentionality, and I need to give it my all to be what is my responsibility and what would make my home full of love, joy, and absolute fulfillment.
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