Everyone wants to feel loved and accepted in whatever situation they find themselves, but does that make rejection inherently bad?, Rejection is something we all hate and always hope won't get the better of us, Why not check out this article to learn about my encounter with rejection, how I handled it, and whether I consider rejection to be entirely negative or to have some benefits.
Rejection can take many different forms, whether it's in a romantic relationship, at the office, in a business, or even by a supreme being like God. However, even though everyone who has experienced rejection has always felt bad about it, rejection is not always bad. In fact, it can sometimes be an eye opener that helps us see beyond what our initial vision can see. It also causes us to reflect deeply and try new approaches in order to improve both ourselves and whatever it was that we were once rejected for.
Before I continue, it's important to note that if, after some reflection, we realize we are acting appropriately and can honestly vouch for the fact that the fault does not lie with us, it is preferable to leave the situationโsuch as our home, workplace, business partner, or relationshipโrather than try to change ourselves.
The truth is that not everyone has the ability to distinguish between gold and common minerals, so for such a group of people it's normal to not value nor appreciate what they can't decipher. I've been in situations where this has happened, both in business and in relationships, and it wasn't a pleasant experience when I got rejected, but I was on the smiling side of the line when I walked out of both.
GETTING REJECTED AT WORK
I once worked at a factory as both the audit manager and supervisor at the same time, and it so happened that during COVID, our salaries were cut, while others were let of, so I had no choice but to make do with the slash amount, since others lost their jobs during the avert of COVID, but after COVID the organization started recruiting new people, to increase the production, but it so happened that most of the people being employed worked under me and yet they're being paid more than I earn, despite the fact that they have less qualification than I do.
Since Covid is no longer involved, I wrote an official letter to the organization's management asking them to review my salary. However, the letter was returned with an angry response asking me what right I had to ask for a pay raise. I was disappointed that my appeal for a pay raise was being denied, but I continued working because finding another job after Covid is difficult. However, there came a point where I couldn't take it any longer, so I submitted my resignation letter.
My resignation letter infuriated the manager, who then ordered me to leave the factory premises right away. I packed up my belongings and left, but after a month I received a call from the manager's boss asking me to return to work because the people in my position had performed abjectly. I declined his request, and he later offered me a pay raise of up to four times what I had been making.
However, I had already made up my mind, so I still refuse to work there, I once share part of my experience at the factory in this post, but that one talked about how I was less cared about even when I got injured while doing everything within my capacity to make sure the productivity improve.
These experiences helped me realize that not all rejections are bad; in fact, this particular one was an eye-opener that I think will help the manager understand the proverb that states, "You don't know the value of a thing until you lose it." I was excited when I left, and not long after, I was able to find a better job where I was valued and treated with respect.
BEING REJECTED IN A RELATIONSHIP
I probably shouldn't regard these as a relationship experience, but it was obviously heading to that direction until she threw the bomb, am sure you'll be wondering what the bomb is and why I took that as a clear blueprint for rejection, well if you care to know the details, they're thoroughly narrated below:
There was a lady I grew close to during my first year of university, We actually did almost everything togetherโI visited her, and she reciprocated, but we never discussed moving our friendship forward to the next level, Nevertheless, the green light was very clear for the blind to see, and if the feelings had sound, I'm confident the deaf would hear it clearly.
However, despite how close we were, she made a statement the day I told her about my feelings and my vision for the two of us. She said that, despite her love for me and my personality, I'm not exactly her type of man because I'm too dark, slim, and below par financially for her likings. The statement hit me so hard that I often say it had the same effect on me as a bomb would, as it literally blasted me from the inside out.
Never have I felt so ashamed of myself, and I didn't even know how I left her present that day, the impact of her remarks were too much for me to stomach, but gradually I got over it and moved on with life, limiting our intimacy but maintaining our friendship. I also improved myself as much as I could and later entered a relationship with another lady in my second year of college.
She was annoyed to see me with another lady, but she didn't try to hide her feelings. Instead, she asked me directly what I saw in the other woman that she doesn't have, and When I reminded her of her statement, she began ranting about how I had misunderstood her words and other things, She also immediately began complimenting my complexion and stature, stating how lovely and shinny my dark complexion is.
I simply smiled and said, "Since you claim to know me so much better than the lady, then you should know I'm a straightforward person, who doesn't joke with people's feelings, so she should know by now that I won't leave the new lady regardless of what she said, I advice that we remain friends," adding that, had she said all of this during the seven months following the time when I told her how I felt, it would have been much simpler, but now there's no turning back.
I gained a lot of knowledge from this situation, even though I felt awful about it. However, I always strive to see the bright side of rejection, which has helped me overcome all of its various effects throughout the years.
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