I hear you. I partially agree, although part of me thinks, why hide? Why are we so afraid to be ourselves? Why are we so afraid to be authentic? In practice, I understand the problems involved. But part of me thinks we should always try to be sincere.

The philosopher Marcus Aurelius once said that you should always think in such a way that if someone asks you the question, what are you thinking about? You can tell him exactly, I am thinking about this or that... not only with one's partner but in general.

It can cause a lot of problems, but in the end, maybe we should be more comfortable being ourselves.

But that's just my thoughts. And I understand you too.

Cheers!