Have you ever stayed and just cut someone off? For one reason or another other you ghost a person or get ghosted by someone?
Ghosting is when you abruptly cut someone from your life without any explanation. No calls, no messages or any means of contact.
Ghosting is something that has become quite rampant in our modern society, I don't know if it has anything to do with social media.
It is something that I can describe as critical in my own words.
By this, I mean that it can be used when necessary, and sometimes it can just be straight up cruel.
But either way, it has a strong impact on the ghoster or the ghost.
There are some instances where ghosting is the best option or tool to be used, like in toxic relationships. The kind of relationships where ghosting is the only solution. For example, I believe that ghosting is the best solution to end physical and emotional manipulative and abusive relationships.
Sometimes people ghost people because they are the type that likes to avoid conflict and the mental stress it comes with, people like me, but I tell myself it's just going to be me being lazy.
Sometimes it could just be a lack of interest. Fine girls and fine boys are believed to do this one the most, lol. You didn't hear this from me.
Immaturity and inability to communicate are also among the reasons behind ghosting. I think I am supposed to have this problem, but I dealt with it.
I have only ghosted someone once. And it was more than valid. If there was any other time I did, then I probably don't remember.
The person I ghosted was this guy from secondary school. He was my senior and graduated when I was in JSS3. Throughout my stay in school I didn't know him, it was after my graduation that he got my number. I have no idea how he got it, but he said it was my cousin, which was a lie because she said she didn't.
But I didn't block him immediately. At first, he tried courting me, but I made it clear my priorities were a thousand miles away from that.
We were both good and agreed to remain on a friendly basis. It remained like that for a little while before he started deviating and started doing things like sending me naughty memes and stuff.
I noticed the gear in our relationship shift and immediately warned him to stop.
He stopped but started again after some time, and that was when I ghosted him. I blocked all forms of contact with him because I was not ready for the stress of constantly reminding him about boundaries and I didn't think he was going to stop.
As much as I find it convenient in some situations, I know ghosting to avoid responsibilities is wrong.
But ghosting doesn't mean you have to hold grudges; sometimes it can just be a break. I have someone who ghosted me once, and I was sure I did nothing, so I just assumed she needed space.
And at her own time, we connected back like never.
Sometimes ghosting can have effects like the person ghosted feeling confusion, overthinking, and self-blame. The one doing the ghosting feels guilt, regret, and loss of trust if mutual friends are involved.