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When life hits, it could hit in two ways—either positively, which brings us joy and happiness, but with joy comes no lessons. But when life hits negatively, we are sad and bitter, and with bitterness and sadness brewing, you just stop, pause, and rethink life. At this point, you learn lessons, and your views about life change.
We all have experiences to share, and here is my fair bit to share with y'all.
Before going further, I just want to say I have missed being here a lot. It has been quite hectic for me lately; life keeps happening sup>
Let's talk about three events that changed my perspective entirely.
The Accidents
Yea, Accidents! Most of which were road traffic accidents, one of which was experienced by me at a very young age, and the other by my dad when I was a bit more grown up. Other accidents have occurred over the course of my 25+ years of life and self-awareness, but these two came quickly into my frame of reference when crafting this piece.
Let's talk about mine first. I was young, and as soon as I got well, I quickly forgot the experience, but what I am not quick to forget is how alone and abandoned it made me feel. Not being able to walk for some time was something else. My dad's accident some years after mine was another accident I could tell of. When you hear people recount their experiences, you can't truly understand how they feel until you can relate to them.On this cold evening, just a phone call changed the entire atmosphere and made it colder. My family is not one that makes a noise at every event. We usually react differently by remaining unforeseenly quiet and cold.
Looking back at these events, I just think about what life is. Just as building is harder than destroying, so it is easier to die and harder to bring in new life! You only need one second, and you may live to recount your near death experience, or have others tell your story. Thinking about these events reiterated to me the fleeting and delicate nature of life. Just one second can change everything!
Trust me, if you heard the gunshot, that means you escaped death
With this in mind, I have decided to try my best to be as humble as I can. My life is no stronger than that of a chicken that was killed to make that shawarma you enjoyed this evening, Some people believe there is life after death, but the truth is you only have to die to experience the truthfulness of that. So, be humble!
The Amputation
I have shared a lot on this, where I recounted the tragic event that befell my would-be mother-in-law, in which she lost both legs to a road traffic accident - accident again? No, it is more than that.
I noticed that, in most homes, it is easier for siblings to maintain a healthy relationship with individuals that are not members of their family than within their family circle. This could basically be the "see finish!" or "over-familiarity" syndrome. However, as a result of my amputation experience, I realized why we have different levels of relationships—family, friends, acquaintances, colleagues, and so on.
Though, there are exceptions to this, most often than not, your family is usually the first to run to you and stick to you in the event of a tragedy. So, keep your friends close, but your family closer.
My Failed (Kinda) Marriage
Where I am from and where I live, I am too young to venture into marriage, but I ventured nonetheless, only to meet a surprise. Human relationships are just too complex, and the worst part of everything is that you can't judge people's genuineness; you can only take people at face value.
My failed marriage attempt (Marriage Attempted!) taught me the value of money. Love is important! But money seems importanter! Yea, we need a new word to add weight to the importance of money. But, it was not like I did not have this in mind when venturing into this. I was sure that as long as the to-be wife wouldn't request gold for breakfast or a diamond for dinner, I was up to the task. But, I was so wrong. The fact is that marriage in most parts of the world is more than one's ability to run a family, but one's ability to meet the requirements for marriage (do a wedding and pay for marriage rites). Your mileage may vary greatly, but that was my experience. Don't ask about the girl, but it was humuliating (do not expect to stop seeing cohabitation among young people anytime soon).
The main issue with our love for money is that most people just pretend that they do not like money, not even love it, but their words and body movements give a whole different impression. In the end, I know I should have been married if I had gone with a Brabus Mod of G Wagon, but I think it's just to work harder.
But hard work is just another scam. I am tired! Lemme stop here, please!
Final Words
If we carefully observe life and our interactions with people on a daily basis, we will discover a lot of learning points, and we can go from an unpragmatic and unrealistic approach to life to accepting facts and realities. Though, it is easier to lie to oneself so as to escape realities, it is better, for the long term, to adjust one's views and live accordingly.
Remember this: "Life is fleeting; family is important; and money rules the world."