Have you ever thought about someone's behavior like from where they get it? Or how they learned it? To be honest I don't believe that genes we carry are the only thing to make us behave in a certain way.
I believe that behaviors are learned and it can't be inherited. Like how do you expect that a child when they are born they do not come with kindness or anger because it's not inside them instantly.
These traits could take longer time to develop over time and it only happens through what we go through or what we see and hear. It totally depends on environment of the family or friends. It does not have to be a person it could be some challenges that we might face in life and that helps us shaping who we become.
Genes can only inherit physical appearance and skills not the mentality or behavior is something that we pick up by observing other people and practicing it ourselves. Good genes can give you beautiful appearances but it won't give you beautiful soul or mentality.
You gotta learn it by yourself also it can't be taught unless you have the desire to change yourself for the better and for that maturity is very important. Even the elders do not understand this because they only have aged physically and mentally they are still the immature child.
When my younger cousin Ope was born I realized that new born babies are like blank pages when they’re born. As he grew he started to change and it didn't happen overnight like at first he didn't know what emotions were such as being angry.
But as time passed he learned it from his surroundings. For example, my cousin grew up seeing his parents who always lived their life politely not only that but also treated others with respect and I have guessed that he has learned the basic manners from his parents unknowingly and started to do the same.
My other cousin Yessir was born into a chaotic household his parents constantly shouted at each other, they also lie with others and even his father shows violence with the other brothers, so Yessir eventually copied that too. That's not because it’s in his blood I think it's lame to blame his genes it’s only because that’s what he have learned to be normal.
However, I feel that our home environment plays an important role in creating a child’s sense of right and wrong. I'm gonna share my personal experience, when I was a kid, I was really short-tempered.
I used to get mad for very small matter, so I thought that was happening because “that's who I am.” But my dad showed me the truth he said “No one can be born with the feeling of anger and it’s like a habit that takes root through experience.”
I have always admired my father's saying and it made me think deeply. I always have looked upto him, I began to observe how he used to handle situations very calmly. He never yelled he only made correct logics which no one could ever beat, he would talk in a slow speed and not rush things out. I wanted to be like my father, so I began to do the same. I couldn't change my anger to calmness so it took practice, but I learned to control my anger.
Well, as you can see that my experience has taught me that behavior can always be improved and it will only happen when a person realized their fault and self-awareness is very necessary. So, it had nothing to do with my genes, I have become a person which I choose to learn and apply.
Sometimes environment also does not matter by watching movies or drama a person can change too. When they see the protagonist is winning, getting applaud for doing right things and receiving love from all the kid will crave for the same attention.
I have seen few of my friends came from a toxic family and they still live in their toxic environment but trust me they are the most nicest person you will ever meet.
Because they never let others influence them not even bad friends can change a person unless he wants to change but it's very rare to see someone not getting influenced by bad friends.
There's also some friends who's parents are super supportive and really nice but that friend of mine went into the wrong path. He started to smoke and then took many illegal stuff which was not going very well for him.
The ones who suffered the most is his parents and he had no regrets. So it's proved to me that behavior doesn’t depend only on genes or even family values. Lastly, I strongly disagree with the idea that behavior is inherited.
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