The word "love" is earth's most commonest abused and misused word. Easy to say, difficult to show. A lot of people do not understand the feelings. To many it is just butterflies in their stomach, an increased heartbeat rate and beautiful sensation that comes from sweet whispers of nothing. To some, love is wicked because it has hurt more than it mends but to me, love is like a shot that hits you when you least expect it and it lingers.
Have I been in love?
Certainly I have been in love. Although more infatuated than in love. I still remember the first time I ever felt those magical feelings. I was only 18 and he was 19 years old. It still amazes me how a simple act of buying of popcorn every night class could make me fall in love so easily but back in the good old days, love was in its purest form and it was pretty easy to fall in love just because someone makes you feel happy and not because of what they have to offer you.
When I fall in love, I fall completely and hopelessly. This is why I have been heartbroken one too many times that at some point in my life, I vowed never to fall in love again. I built a brick around my heart and it was very difficult to penetrate until I came to the realization that love is never wrong, people are. Love never hurts, people do. Love is a beautiful thing and I had to let it make me beautiful too.
I can go to any length for the one I love. I can give you the last money in my bank account. That's how much I love. I can be available whenever I am needed. When I am in love, I'm your greatest fan. I am the greatest supporter of your dreams. I work out ways to help you achieve your dream and I am willing to play any role necessary to the actualisation of such a dream. I understand the need for compromise in a relationship, to accommodate each other's excesses and I'm always willing to make such compromises.
Even though I love deeply, there are things I can never do no matter how much I am smitten by you.
I can never get a tattoo
I have nothing against tattoos. I believe everybody is free to do whatever they wish. I have seen people who are in love tattoo their partner's name on their body or even their face. I feel that is a high level of insecurity. I do not need to go through pain and permanently ink your name or face on my body to prove that I love you.
I would never do weird sex stuffs
Sex can be quite interesting and exhilarating. It is the bond that joins lovers together. While it is exciting to try out new things with my partner, there are certain limits I would not cross. I will not engage in an orgy or a threesome just to please my partner and BDSM is a NO.
My property remains my property.
It's mine because I purchased it. I won't, because of love, register it in my partner's name. No one knows tomorrow. I'm not envisaging a falling out but shit happens and I wouldn't want to be caught up in a regret.
I can't sacrifice my personal goals and aspirations.
Even though we are a couple and in love, our individuality still exists. As a person I have my dreams and aspirations. I'll rather you support me in achieving it rather than ask me to quit my dreams and help you realise yours just because I'm in love. I'm in love not stupid.
I will not cover up a crime nor commit one for love
Yes, I love you but not enough to break a law or cover up your crime. If you break the law, you will certainly do your terms. I won't also kill, steal, lie or commit any offence just to prove how much I love you. I love my freedom and my free conscience more.
I will never take a blood oath.
As weird as it may seem, this happens. Two people who are madly in love go to the extent of taking a blood covenant to never leave each other. From the stories I've heard, none has ever ended well. This is simply crazy. I don't need to smear my blood with yours and lick it with my tongue just to prove that I'm in love. I'm only in love, not a vampire.
I won't cut relationship ties with my family just to make you happy.
After all is said and done, my family will always be there for me but I can't say much about my lover. I won't because I am in love, break every tie with them. They come first and they will always do. If you don't like my family and can't stand them then I shouldn't be loving you in the first place.
The list is endless. Love is beautiful and requires a lot of sacrifice but moderation is key. I won't catch a grenade or jump in front of a moving train for anyone. When one love ends, another will always blossom. It's all a matter of time.