Lessons I learned in the journey of love

"Continue to share your heart with people even if it has been broken."- Amy Poehler

I've been in and out of love since I was in college but until now it's still a question for me if true love really do exists or not. if there's really someone that is meant only for me. I wonder if I already met him or if he is one of those people that I let go of in life. I wonder if our path already crossed and I just didn't pay attention. But whether I met him already or haven't met him yet, one thing I know for sure, that finding and looking for someone gives me a lot of lessons.

Meeting and knowing someone is fun, gives you the feeling of adventure, gives you the feeling of a roller coaster ride. It's full of laughter, fun, excitement, and sometimes if you are not careful enough or even if you are too careful it will also bring tears to your eyes and aches in your heart.

There are so many things that this journey can taught us and it is only up to us if we will learn or not. And if you are gonna ask me, what I learned about love this will be my answers.

Friendship or more than that.
There is this thin fine line between friendship and love. You have to identify if what you are feeling is love or just a deeper friendship with someone that is so close to you. Don't jump to conclusion, that what someone is showing you is more than friendship. If you have to ask just to confirm it, go and ask, don't hesitate, and ask directly the person, that's the best way for you to know. It is better to ask than to assume that there is really something that is not true. Saves you from humiliating yourself too. And another thing, if you are going to ask and if the other person feels the same way about you, be ready for the consequence. Ask yourself if you can gamble or if you can let go of the friendship just to have him/her because if you lose, you're not only losing the person but the friendship as well.

TRUST
Big word, for me it's bigger than love, a really big word but you need this to love a person. I learned that you cannot love a person whom you don't fully trust. You will not have peace of mind or you'll not be comfortable if you do not trust the person that well. All relationships start with trusting the other person and it ends when that trust is broken. You'll be walking on eggshells, and you will never be comfortable. Trust is one of the foundations of all relationships, get to know the person really well and trust will follow.

SINCERITY
You have to be sincere, You have to unmask yourself. You have to show the person how sincere you are if you want to keeping the relationship. You have to open your heart for the other person to see how sincere you are no matter how hard it is express. Sincerity just like trust makes the relationship stronger. Masking the real you won't do you any good, it will only lead to broken relationships. But remember, not all people are sincere with what they show you, some are just pretending to get something from you.

PRIDE, EGO, AND SELFISHNESS
I learned that you have to let go of your pride and ego. You have to be selfless too if you want to make your relationship work but you also have to make sure that you are not losing yourself in the process. Yes, your ego will be hurt, there are times that your pride will be stronger than your feelings but you have to forget your pride when you are in a relationship. There will be a lot of times that you are going to let go of your pride and your ego. There will be a lot of situation that you have to understand your partner. Selfishness will not help in maintaining the relationship, you have to be selfless in order to make it work. If you truly love the person being selfless is not hard to do. Another thing about being selfless whenever you are in love, you have to balance it too for you not to be abuse. there are some people who tend to abuse the person when that person is too in love.

FORGIVE AND FORGET
Remember that people in a relationship just like others are human too, they make mistakes, they lie, they fail. That's why you have to learn to forgive and forget to save the relationship. This one is easier said than done but you have to learn to do it. Of course, you have to know when to forgive because not all mistakes are forgivable. And not all lies are forgettable. If lying and cheating are part of the mistakes, and if your partner keeps on doing it over and over again, this forgive and forget will save you from being miserable. FORGIVE yourself for believing all the lies and cheating of that person and FORGET the person for you to be able to hold back your sanity.

LETTING GO
For me letting go is harder than forgive and forget. This is so hard for me since I easily get attached to people, but I only allow myself to get attached to the people who are already in my circle. I don't like separation, I don't like death, I don't like people leaving, I just don't like it. I don't like the thought of someone leaving but that was before my mom left us. After that, I already accepted the fact that people will just come and go into your life, and letting go will always be part of the process. No one stays behind us until the end that is why you have to be strong, you have to be independent so that when the time comes that you have to let go it will not be that painful and you will not have a hard time standing up again. Being left alone by someone important to your life can make or break you. So learn to choose on which will make you better. Learn to let go of things and people that need to go and start their own journey in life without you.

There are still a lot more lessons that I learned on this journey of love and believe me it's an endless list. And it doesn't mean that if you learned all the lessons that you need to learn about love you'll have someone in your life that will stay with you forever. Sometimes you just learned these lessons for you to get through life. And yes, I'll stay on this journey until I found someone who is really meant for me, who is destined for me. Until then, I will keep on updating this article until I find that one.

And if you are still reading this... Thank you so much for your time.