I recall last year when a friend of mine enlightened me about this, cause then I was feeling this guilt whenever people walked out of my life or show me some attitude, I always take the blame for it, I was fighting hard to stick up, to be that good guy, the one who always apologized, the one who is so free and open who can't keep malice or shut people out of his life, I was this good to everyone I come across but they rarely reciprocate the gesture.....
however with time I began to really understand the human nature and it's complexity, i understood that GOOD is a relative term, that what's good to Mr A is very Bad for Mr B and vice versa, that one man's food is another man's poison, so gradually the understanding got me and I began to appreciate myself more, seeing the good in me and why I'm valuable to me and to a very close circle of friends that I have
well maybe I'm just an introvert, I rarely talk or keep Friends, I'm not a man of many friends, so the few that I have I try to keep them close, but tho it hurts so bad when your close circle chooses to turn its back on you...
I am a strong believer of building solid relationships over time, I believe that through solid relationship a man can scale many walls, conquer many battles and can become anything on the bases of a good healthy relationship, but however as you know human beings are wired differently and so we see, percieve and behave differently..
Not everyone we loose is a loss ....like my friend would say that some person's just come into your life for a season, or for a purpose, that there's some persons who nature just orchestrate their steps towards you for a particular reason and when that's done somehow they leave it's not that anything is wrong but the very reason they came has been accomplished..
after he told me that I felt some sense of relief, that's it's okay, altho for many reasons I still feel indebted to some of them in the past for what they have done or what value they have contributed into my life.
for me I'm really intentional about relationships and creating valuable ones so no matter what I choose to be good to show kindness and love but if they still choose to let go which will hurt but later on I will get over it ....it's true not all losses are losts.
