People come and people go. No matter how hard you try to push some people away from your life, they will always find a way to come back when their work in your life is not completed. On the other hand, there are some people that no matter how you try to make them stay, they will always leave someday. Sadly, that is just how life works and to us, this might seem fair or not fair, depending on the angle we are looking at things from. Personally, I hate to see people leave especially without a reason or because I hurt them so badly and they just couldn’t take it anymore.
In as much as life decides most of these outcomes for us, fighting for those we want to stay in our lives isn’t bad at all as long as we are playing it fair and rightly. Sometimes, we find it hard to make people stay because of our pride and our always-right attitudes. We are too proud and because of that, we lose some important people in our lives and later regret our poor choices. Some think it is foolish to fight for people to stay in their lives but that’s not true. Yes, people can often make you regret your actions but then, as long as it is the right thing to do, always try to make people stay especially when you know how important they are in your life or you are in their lives until you just can’t do anything.
Sometimes they don’t even recognize your worth in their lives but you can help them see your worth but that is only if you are intentional about that relationship in the first place. The truth is, you will always get to that point in your life when you will feel like the people you are with are no longer worth fighting for but that can also be a stage you have to cross to make that friendship or relationship stronger. Trust me, that period of any relationship is very hard and so many people don’t make it through.
You will lose people but make sure you don’t lose them for the wrong reasons. Learn to forgive people and always learn to put yourself in their shoes too. If after weighing every side of the coin and you think letting them go is the best option, don’t hesitate. But make sure you seek for counsel from someone else you trust to give you a good advice before making such decisions because they might just make you see things differently in the right direction.
Never regret trying to make people stay in your life. I often feel this way sometimes but that shouldn’t be at all, especially if you did that because you love them. But if they still choose to go, always wish them well and learn to be happy for them regardless. Losing them doesn’t make you a loser or doesn’t mean it’s a loss. It most times means it is a time to open the next chapter which they just can’t be in.
Thank you for reading through. 💜