In life, there are some things that we just can’t choose for ourselves and that’s because it’s not on the menu and one of such things is our family. Naturally, if as little children we can choose the family we wish to come from, a lot of us might not be with the family we are with now. Maybe due to our own misunderstandings of that family or because of how inconvenient it feels to live with them. But when it comes to choosing other relationships, well, it might be a little influenced by the choices our parents has already made for us but this time, we have some level of decision making to do.
When it comes to making friends, it is one of those relationships that we know has the potential of coming to an end but we find ourselves in positions where it feels like making friends is a do-or-die decision we have to make. Sometimes we don’t necessarily want to make new connections with people but we notice how circumstances brings us together with certain people and we just choose to let it happen because we either can’t really change anything or we love the idea of us being friends with that person that circumstance has brought us together.
For me, we choose our friends but there are a lot of circumstances that affects that. Take for example, in a school setting, naturally you will want to be close to your seat mate if you have one. And that is because the environment has brought that person close to you. But then, if you don’t see that person as someone you want to be friends with, you can choose not to be close with them. So either ways, you as an individual has to make the choice whether or not to accept a friendship.
Yes, sometimes we don’t choose our friends, they actually choose us or circumstances chooses them for us whether or not we like it. But we love it that they have chosen us to be their friends because they are just the kind of people we want as friends. While some other times, we are maybe scared or not confident enough to say no to some friendships that come to us. We just rather wait it out and hope that they one day get tired of us and chose to live on their own so we don’t become enemies.
So, in as much as we choose our friends, I believe our friends also chose us. And so does circumstances too. Sometimes we are too shy and indecisive to make good friends and we will be happy when some friends choose us to be friends with them. But we should always know the kind of people to keep as friends and be bold enough to put an end to any friendship that isn’t in line with our values of wanting to keep friends.
This is my response to this week’s topic on DO WE CHOOSE OUR FRIENDS OR DOES CIRCUMSTANCES CHOOSE THEM FOR US?.
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