In all sincerity most friendships begins based on circumstances.
I also believe that friendship happens for a reason i.e there must have been something that drew us both together.
And there is certainly something we want from each other, when one person is not relevant to the other the bond begins to break apart.
When it comes to making friends, I love it so much or maybe I would say I love meeting people.
Because I do classify and define my friendship with people to avoid high expectations, disappointments and getting hurt.
I know how my friendship with people are, so I try not to cross the boundary for maintaining peace and smooth bonding with people.
When I was in university which is my best stage in life, I made cool friends that I understand and was able to determine our friendship level.
My friends were friends to my friends so I had a border friendship zone.
Though friendship is not forced but my friends to my other friends are cordial helping me to be cool with everyone.
We all knew we needed one another to survive so we didn't denial the parasitic behavior but we didn't suck and dry anyone.
Whoever that is going extreme exist first because it won't be conducive for you.
I had a coursemate who wanted to befriend me because of a course I was good at.
I knew her intentions and accepted to be used in that aspect but I never allowed her to cross that line by trying to invade in my private life.
Like she pretending to be cool with visiting me in the hostel and staying in my room for a while.
She wasn't even interested in being cordial with my friends, she wanted to steal me away from my actual true friends.
Which I said no to and explained things to her, by placing her in her lane.
She can't be too greedy and selfish to take me away from my friends while she paints me ugly to her own friends.
Because she was always acting different whenever I am with her friends.
In conclusion circumstances aids in friendship, most people are friends with you for a reason.
The best is to discover your value, and decide if you want the friendship or be cordial or determine your level so you will know how you flow.
Because no matter what, we all need friends.
Genuine friendship starts from how you perceive it.
Thank you very much for reading.
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