Coffee and I are old friends (coffee is older than me of course) and I do a lot of thinking over coffee. With this in mind I decided to start a little concept called thoughts over coffee which I'll be doing from time to time.
Topic - Be a better you part three (Part two here)
Be interested in others
- Maintain eye contact and issue encouragement through body language such as nods, head tilts, words like "tell me more" or a compliment. There's an amazing power that comes through a minimalistic encouragement when interacting and it keeps others talking and those others thinking how awesome a listener you are.
- Listen then ask intelligent questions. Most people break into dialogues about themselves rather than asking questions which is a mistake. Make it about them, not you.
- Remember small details and especially their names.
You're flawed, own it
- Don't hide your flaws, admit to them. If you don't know something say so rather than pretending you do. We all have weaknesses so no one out there believes that you do not.
- Showing your imperfections demonstrates your humanness and helps others relate to you because they have the same or similar. It helps open conversation and helps people find a type of synergy, a commonality.
- Don't be what you're not. You are probably not the smartest person in the room and acting like you are will not endear you to others and will probably mean you miss out on some valuable lessons or information from others who simply clam up and let you babble on like a twat.
What do you reckon? If you want to comment below then go ahead, I'm interested in your thoughts and experiences.
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