Salutations!!
I belong to a family whose people around me are seemingly sweet but behind them is full of bitterness. In the past I always had a fear, helpless and afraid that these people might harm me. And I was afraid of people like that because they are the ones who do the most harm, like the sweet poison or sweet knife.
I didn't know how to deal people like that before. But the attitudes of these people taught me a lot over time. I was not an introvert type girl from the beginning. I was a girl who lived this life like a child, who was as crazy as a child in celebrating every little joy. There were no tensions in her life. But then my emancipation ended.
I was good to everyone as long as I obeyed everyone. And I also belongs to a middle class family where if I refused to talk to someone,I would be reproach for hours.
I'm a bird who is jovial to be in her cage
(Sighs)
I have learned to be alone now. And now I fight my own battles.
I keep quiet now to avoid people's nonsense:
The coolest thing for me now is that I ignore people's words. And I think silence is the best way for me if I want to calm myself down. Now I don't care what people talk about me or not. Now it doesn't matter of anyone calls me bad because my Allah knows me well. And I think if everyone goes to my opponent except my parents, I won't react in the slightest. That's why I stay calm and people find this my worst behaviour now.
So keeping quiet is biggest victory for me to fight my battle.
Saying "NO" to people:
Keeping others happy does not mean ruining your peace of mind. I have learned that if I ruin my peace and obey people, I will never be happy in life. What should I feel denied, I simply refuse people now. I can't be available to people all the time. So I simple say "No" and maintain my inner peace.
Have a warrior mindset:
Instead of fighting with people, I now fight with the things that go on in my mind. How to stabilize things, how to bring back my peace, for all these things I fight with the mess of my mind. Because I think man is responsible for his own peace.
Fin:
This is not the age where purity was in everyone's heart. Now mostly people here use us for their own purpose and meaning. If you want to get out of these things, you have to be a little numb. This world now takes advantage of innocence.
So learn to fight your own battle
Maybe You may not all agree with me. May be you have found peace in your life from people. Everything I have written is based on my life experience.
Thank you to read my new piece💕