Hi Hive Lovers
"NO" is one strong word. It establishes boundaries, deterrence, resistance, and denial.
The word "No" causes reactions related to the experience of its use. Often, the word "no" that is spoken is a manifestation of the mood and attitude that occur before and after the word "No" is said. It has strength and power that is proportional to the intonation used when pronouncing it.
If you notice in many dialogues, even in formal dialogues, every time the word "No" is heard, the reaction of the other person or the person listening will immediately feel different. Instantly, there is a change, and it is clearly visible in the response of the person's body language. Automatic physical reactions.
I've done a little experiment in a meeting attended by five stakeholders from five different divisions for strategic policy making. I was involved but had no voting rights there. So, I was only asked to come to find out how this important policy-making process is going, and I have been determined by the rules to be given the opportunity to know the process of making this decision.
I attended the meeting from start to finish, and it took about 55 minutes, which included our time to have a cup of coffee and ask each other how they were. This means that everyone in the meeting has an average of 10 minutes of effective speaking each.
I do not have voting rights, so I can freely count the word "No" spoken by everyone present there. How ridiculous !LOL
I don't record the number of times a person says the word "No." I just accumulate each word that is heard and I make sure that I hear and record it exactly.
Every time you hear the word "No", there is a physical reaction from other people who listen to it, whether it's a disappointed face, raised eyebrows, body movements back, head shaking, pen placed, looking at each other with the person next to him, or other physical reactions that I can not describe here.
Here are my notes about it:
During the 55 minutes they spoke, I recorded 87 times the word "No" was said, and there were 87 physical reactions of the listener that occurred after the word "No" was heard. Balanced!
Without realizing it, the word "No" has been in the subconscious to say. But the impact remains the same. still has a reaction from others who hear it. Some of the words "No" we say casually and have become a habit in our conversations all the time. The words "obviously no," or "no, that's not what I meant," and so on are words that have become ingrained and we repeat over and over again throughout life.
The habit of saying the word "No" has provoked various reactions from other people who confront us, and actually it is very useless in our interactions with other people, especially with those we love. Saying the word "No" in various contexts will destroy the warmth of the conversation, damage emotional closeness, hinder progress, and may trigger division.
It should be in all aspects of our lives. It should be under our control; thoughts, words, and actions. Everything is in our own control. We just can't control other people, right?
Pay attention to the word "No" in every word you say! Start reducing it and look for other better word choices. If you have to keep using the word "No" in your speech, then use it wisely!
If you have a different view or you have experience with the use of the word "No" and its effects, please post it in the comments column if you are willing, and I will reply as soon as I can.
