Seeing how childhood is very important in the life and development of every Individual, i decided to write down this story just to show how parents contribute to low esteem or inferiority complex of their children, and to show that low self esteem or inferiority complex cannot keep you locked up from achieving greater heights in future despite missing out your original heart desires. Please enjoy.
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Lolu was born in a family of 3. Her parents met while they were in tertiary institution. Vibrant and intelligent young amazing lovers with bright future, they made excellent grades from the University and with heavy speed into the labor market just after national youth service. With high hopes, they became so lovingly and romantically engaged such that before her parents could legally tie the knot of marriage, their bodies had already tied the knot leaving the evidence on Lolu's mother's protruding stomach.
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Despite the situation, they were filled with so much joy and hopes to have achieved being a young couple, while waiting for the labor market and economy of Nigeria to slap their smiling faces with Employment. As JJC of the Nigerian system, they thought it was easy until they were dumped in the city just as thousands of CV's are given to Mama Akara and Mallam Suya except for those who know people and of course those willing to go extra mile in cash or kind with their bodies. The nepotism in employment had just visited them welcome.
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PAUSE, LET US FOCUS ON LOLU THE SUBJECT OF THIS LITTLE PIECE.
In a striving not really starving family, Lolu grew up to a hustling and busy man who was straight forward, less talker and hardly at home father in the name of seeking better life for self and family. We can't really blame him I guess. Three pregnancies, no job, 3 children, no work, all 5 in a one room apartment lapping each other manytimes at night while feeding from hand to mouth most days turnedthis sweet loving Lolu 's mother into a mean, hustling and a no nonsense woman with zero regard or tolerance to sluggishness, carelessness and jokes. Reality had stolen their very dreams from their eyes. Reality without gun had robbed this once happy couple of happiness they could find within, and so they lived.
Due to the nature of her parents, Lolu had no choice than to live a peaceful and quiet life avoiding each and every situation that would warrant a transfer of aggression from father or mother. Lolu lived in constant fear and timidity until it was obvious. Lolu did not need to be diagnosed of depression by a medical doctor. Mere eyes could do the medical examination. To Lolu's mum, it was an act of laziness and weakness. She would yell and say mean words to Lolu just to get domestic task done or to satisfy the family needs.
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Lolu became a shadow of herself. It had always been her dream to become a politician. I guess the cold mood and hostile atmosphere created by her parents made her feel less worthy of being a spotlight.
Lolu had resolved her whole life might just end in pleasing her family.
Lolu lost hope in her confident future as a child. The sad walls of her parents had become her sad world. Growing through teenage and adult age became a serious war for Lolu. Ordinary, Lolu ought to end up depressed, drunkard, prostitute, stealing, drug addict or any of such because that is how it always ends.
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However, Lolu got help through a school teacher and she is now a great fashion design as she is currently contemplating going into modeling because that was one of the remedy Dr. Joe (School Teacher) suggested to help restore the lingering mental journey of intimidation and a demeaning self esteem her parents had sent her to from an early age. (The role of school teachers we can't see cannot be overemphasized)
Please know that the Development through the life of a child is significantly responsible for the Individual such person has become. Mental growth and thinking ability developepes at early age before and during teenage age. Money is not everything, neither is fame, houses or any more thing.
Instead of being co tenants in disguise, let us build our families and homes.