A man or a woman is only a human. All human also has a soul, also will know sadness, pain, anger and one thing is for sure that it is fluctuating before all situations and circumstances. But everyone's way of expressing emotions is different. Many people cry because of grief, but many cannot shed tears though they are really so sad. And men always choose to hide their tears. For many men, tears are considered a sign of weakness. That's why it's easier to see women's tears than men's.
Why is that?
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From an early age, boys are often told by adults, including their parents, to be tough and strong. Crying is a weakness and not something that a boy is allowed to do. This prejudice has gained currency in the culture of many countries, and it deeply affected the psyche of men, making them assume that crying is a real weakness.
My father - He is a man I love and respect very much. Because in my eyes, he is the one who knows everything in the world, he can answer any of my questions without having to research or think, and because he is such a strong man. Life was hard with many times he failed and many times suffered, but he never cried. Each time like that, he just sat alone, sad eyes looking into the distance. No matter what anyone asked him, he remained silent, said a few words, and then stretched out on the corner of the bed and pretended to be asleep. Just like that, I grew up in his arms for more than 20 years, but I never saw him cry until the day I got married.
Later, I realized that my father was not strong at all. He's just good at hiding his emotions. I understood this because I found that I was like him very much. No one taught me to be strong, nor did anyone teach me not to cry because I was just a girl. But now, I have become a person who it hard to shed tears. Perhaps I have been deeply influenced by the image of a father in the past. That is the image of a father who was always calm in all problems and every situation.
Regardless of failure, sadness in love, or facing any difficulty, I still can't cry. I accept everything as a matter of course. I don't think crying won't solve the problem. But behind that tough cover are the torments in the soul, extremely painful. Through many ups and downs of life, I understood how tired my father was at times like that.
After all, men don't cry is not for they're strong, not for they're heartless or insensitive, and that's not in their nature either. They are not allowed to weep in front of a woman, their children, and they must always be strong in front of any situation because they are men. But that is unfair.
My dad now is no longer my sweet dad when I was a kid. It seems that all the sorrows in his life are accumulating until today. It has made his person gradually hardened with all emotions. For him, it's okay to be happy, it is okay to be sad, and he no longer cares much about the problems of the people around him. And he doesn't want to share everything with anyone. I realized this in recent years. I understand why he became like this, so I love him very much.
Those who can't cry are sometimes the most vulnerable, they always have to suppress their emotions, try to bear all the pain in their hearts, make their souls heavy, and the pain in their hearts grows bigger until they no longer have the strength to continue. Then everything breaks, the problem becomes serious and difficult to control.
I wish I knew sooner, so when I look at my father with has a heavy heart, I will come close to him and say: "Dad! if it is too painful, let cry!"
I want to tell my dad that tears are not a symbol of weakness, but a symbol of emotion, a person with a heart. Even though he cries in front of me, he is still a father that I always respect. No tear is meaningless. Its destiny is to help refresh the suffering and stuck souls and wash away scars of the heart. When we cry for something, even though we can't solve the problem with tears, at least it helps us to clear our mood, helps us feel more comfortable and lighter. The important thing is that after those tears, we have to get up and smile to continue going, regain the spirit to overcome all the hardships of life, and that's really a strong person.
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