Life throws us many curveballs some we can play some we have to leave and some we have to play with. Some of the time it makes sense to tolerate. Because we can't skip things. Like parents destroying our life. Like boss making us live with insults till we find new job. Life is kind of like that. Never peaceful always stress.
I learned astrology especially Hindu Vedic one. Where the 9 planets are studied and the learning of karma and the variety of ways we get suffering. I learned it. And then started mapping out for my life. I learned a lot of problems can be skipped and move on with. Sometimes not fighting for things saves us from drama.
When there are lot of stress and suffering going on with the life. Always remember karma and find out what you have to give back to the universe to get out of the stressful situation. When you learned that you would be able to get out of the sufferings. This is how the mindset in Hindu astrology taught me and it helped.
Suffering is sometimes optional and sometimes it is not going to leave any doors open. Suffering it is!