Is it strange that I can watch a movie in loop? I know it’s not strange to listen to a song over and over but I haven’t heard anybody playing a movie over in a few days. Well, I have to admit I have been watching 2 of my favorite movies since the weekend till Tuesday. Firstly, it’s not healthy because I’m distracted from work and sleep. But I caught myself after 5 times of replaying the part I love in each movie (I have my highlighted moments for each) and wondered if this is my new ADDICTION!
I have to laugh at my own question. 😁 As I think about it, about the highlights, about the characters and stories, I realized I can really relate to them. And more importantly, these great movies give me hope. The more I watch them, the more I want to share with others. These life stories are real, about love and pain, sufferings, loss and healing, about strength, genuine friendship, each individual’s spiritual journey from lost to be found. And I admire the directors, actors and actress in each movie. They are so talented to portrait people in real life, normal people with normal stories just like mine and yours. The more I watch, the more I understand and relate to the characters. I see myself and I see my journey with each step in the movie. And I connect with each character, with their real-life struggle, hope, strength and change & growth journey. The more I connect, understand and accept their view points, the more I accept myself. I am able to hug myself, hold space for me to grief my loss, my pain and let them go as well as to welcome new life challenges and adventures.
The reasons I love these 2 movies also include: a good story, good acting of not only main but all supporting cast, the lessons learned, the reflection of life journey anybody can experience at certain time in their lives. Of course, they have happy endings, which bring me joy and hope that eventually, kindness, honesty and faith leads the way to true love and happiness.
I definitely relate to most feelings depicted in the movies. The pain from losing a loved one, from distanced family members or best friend, from blindly trusting in a partner, from going to rock bottom of sufferings, hiding to recover from heartbreak, and finally deciding to face life one more time, to live again, to open up and feel and connect again. Both main characters in these movies went thru dark time of life from heartbreaks. And I think that’s the main reason I can relate to them and to the journey they go through.
Through lost and heartbreak, I have learned a lot about myself and about life. I learned I’m not perfect in so many ways. I am carrying in me generations of pain and sufferings from famine, from war and from hardship. All of which I ignored since life is good on the surface and I’m following society’s standard to be happy (eventually) by studying hard, working hard, raising a family and being obedient to my parents and all the elders since they know the way to a happy life. I learned I lack a lot of useful skills for life and my youth was almost wasted on studying too much unnecessary knowledge I probably won’t ever use. Most schools don’t teach emotional intelligence (such as taking care of our anger, sadness), understanding and accept oneself & others, relationship skills with family of origin and our small family when we become adults, personal finance and wealth management, and healing from traumas (how to get back to this wonderful live more quickly after loss). And a spiritual journey (not superstitious rituals) is also a luxurious for most of us growing up in a developing country.
And well, all these lessons I have to learn sometime in life, and since not taught, I learn through pain and setbacks in life. As a self-reflection, I am always grateful for obstacles and pain in life that told me: hey, slow down the race and madness path you’re in to reflect, breath and reassess. Afterwards, I become stronger and more importantly more aware of myself and multiple paths open for me. I can say for sure now that new paths are usually not traditional or typical, but I’m happier after a detour. The paths are still difficult to follow, as they’re so different from society standards. For my personal journey, I have changed from climbing the corporate ladder to being a digital nomad. I still love my job but I am not restrained in an office and a title to aim for. Then I was introduced to and practiced minimalist lifestyle, which I love because it has always been my way of life without the great influence of consumerism around me as in my earlier chapter of life. Since having the freedom of time and space, I continue to explore mindfulness, meditation and healing. Then major life event happened and most of my goals and dreams crashed to pieces. I was lucky I have been studied and have had good teachers and mentors to support me through this dark period. Imagine all reference points in life, which were so vivid one moment and then vanished the next. I felt like I don’t belong, I’m lost!
That’s why the song “A matter of time” at the happy ending of the movie with the lyrics “now I’m found” just touched me so deeply every single time I listen to it (of course over and over).
As I understand myself more, overcome the hard time, learn to accept and forgive not just others, but most importantly myself. I learned so much lessons during the past two years of reflection; therefore, I can relate to stories of hurt, pain, sufferings, betrayal which all leads to acceptance, forgiveness, healing, resilient, self-reliance, friendship, finding peace and love again!
Let me introduce my two recent favorite movies:
Love again / A Matter of Time (2014) with Kevin Sorbo, Shelley Long, Kelsey Sanders and Jason Burkey.
Home by Christmas with Linda Hamilton, Rob Stewart and Brenda Crichlow.
These are free on YouTube so I hope you check them out and let me know if you like them.
Have a wonderful movie night!
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