So after writing a post...
I make sure to have done so many edits, added a few tweaks, and make sure it's reader-friendly.
And that's because I understand that I'm the first audience of any content that comes from here, and in the theater of this experience, my eyes look for details such as misplaced commas, misspelled words, and crooked sentences in the middle of paragraphs.
However, no matter how much you proofread, there would probably still be some errors and people would be sure to point them out.
Although some critics can be really blunt and nasty. Like very straight. I'm not going to talk about that today.
But I'm about how best we can receive these feedbacks that'll help one become better.
I got permanently blacklisted weeks back and it's been really tough and reflecting back on my actions I know I really messed up for not owning my shit immediately I made the error. And although it seems like I broke my own rule
So this is what I've learned. Continue with how you do your thing but make sure you listen and learn. And here is the catch:
If possible, include them in your changes. I have had people lower and younger than me point out mistakes I've made in the past. And the best thing to do is to just listen and learn. Although it might have hurt me, but because I'm always keen on learning and correcting my mistakes I make sure to call them no matter how young they may be and encourage them to tell me ways they feel I could improve and avoid the mistakes. It's a sign of growth.
I make sure to adapt whatever I might have learned.
So you're a cook and your client tells you your soup tastes horrible. If they know how to do it a better way, ask them politely to show you if they can. And although it's okay to agree with them, it's best to ask them what you have to do instead of seeking the answers elsewhere. The reason for this is their words point out exactly what you need to do; it would be different from another person's view.
So first, at least ask them. You will probably be shocked at their response. Then include them in your changes. A better understanding of what's wrong and what really needs to be changed, rather than looking for elusive improvements in the dark, without really understanding how to fix it.
Involving your critics in one's change catalyzes one's growth exponentially. Also, we need to stop the habit of blocking people who criticize us. Keep them in the audience and let them see our actions going forward while you try again or start over.
Along the way, You may find that some critics have unrealistic expectations. But if you start talking to them right away about how you can do better, you'll know faster. Getting the right feedback means getting them to put on your shoes.
It makes them feel like you want to truly get better.
And what I've learned this does is that it helps them make your mistakes more forgiving. But beyond that, it helps one to quickly clarify what to change and how to proceed.
So going forward, all I'm for is getting better...
And the way to do so is to ask whoever told me so or pointed a mistake to me is; How do I get better?