Sitting here wondering what part of believing in yourself is tougher when you have different scenarios presented in front of you. It’s a different kind of feelings when no one believes in you, but you believe in yourself. It’s also a different kind of feeling when no one believes in you and you don’t also believe in yourself, this way you are un motivated about your life. I think that’s the point of total failure in life, because you have lost your self esteem.
The third scenario is people believing in you but unfortunately you don’t believe in yourself as much as they believe in you. Usually, their belief in you is supposed to be a form of motivation to you, but here you are too scared of disappointing them that you fail to actually put in the work. You feel you have so much pressure placed on you, you are always putting the feelings of the people that believe in you first before your feeling. While this can feel like so much pressure, that might be the push some people needed to start believing in theirselves, this is where the scenario of having people believing in you and believing in yourself come to play.
I’m always proud and envious of people who believe in theirselves regardless of what people think. But am sure that no matter how self confident someone is, or no matter how much they believe in theirselves, there is always an atom of self doubts in the them. I got to notice that from a friend I will call the most self confident person I have ever encountered in my life. This guy believed in himself so much I once thought he was a mini god, because the confidence was too much. I admired that so much about him, I used to wonder if he ever had a moment of self doubt. I once tried to be like him in expressing self confidence and self belief. Whenever I started doubting myself, I think about him and ask myself, “what would he do”?
This was what I used to do, not until I was having a conversation with him one day and he expressed a form of self doubt. I felt relived because that just proved to me that, in everything we do, we are all humans with feelings. There is nothing wrong in having self doubts occasionally, but having more self confidence and belief is better and more healthy to get things done and help us achieve our goals. This helped me believe in myself better, now I know that self doubts are normal and not a problem, it helped me look at life in a different way and direction.
There was a point in my life where I was scared of disappointing people because a lot of people believed in me and depended on me so much. This scared me so much, I tried over working myself because I never wanted to let them down, but this was at my own detriment. I used to wish that they didn’t believe in me so much so that they can let me work towards achieving my goal at my own pace. But then, it took me one disappointing act to finally get that grip I was looking for.
I disappointed the people I was trying so much not to let down, they felt disappointed in me, I was mad, I was angry, I regretted a lot of things. I wished there was something I could do, but no matter how I felt, I couldn’t go back in time to stop what I did or corrected my mistakes. So I decided to let that moment be the last time I will allow people put so much pressure on me by expecting a lot from me through claiming they believe in me. Because the moment things went wrong, they were so quick in switching up and telling me how disappointed they were.
It’s always good to have people believe in you but having a quality amount of people believe in you both during the good and bad time is the best thing that can happen to you. But the best person to believe in you is yourself. That’s who you should be more worried about.