I have no ideas in mind right now what to write I just spent my time reading some books, stories on the net and some love advice from the experts and this is what I've found. It's about relationships, I'm always interested in this kind of topic especially seeing married couples celebrating their golden anniversary and still so in love with each other. These are just random thoughts I get from the site that I read, the 13 reasons why every relationship prospers. I have picked some reasons that I like most and here it is.
Be together for the right reasons
Well, I questioned myself, what are my reasons why I love my partner? he is fun to be with, honest, and sincere. In the first part of the relationship mostly all we see are the best part of that person and then later on we realize it was just make-believe. Having the right reason to be with someone is that both feelings are mutual in a relationship. We both agree to be in this relationship no matter what because we do have the same reason to love and cherish each other, it is right because the mutual understanding is there, and the feelings we both have were not forced or arranged.
For some reason, it is not right when a relationship is forced. In some way going into a relationship because you are in despair and going into a relationship might change you, and the way people look at you. Some go into a relationship to be out of the hardships of the family. Others have arranged marriage, some got pregnant, have an emotional problem, and are young to think that everything will solve by love. How about you are your reasons right?
"love, itself, is neutral. It is something that can be both healthy or unhealthy, helpful or harmful, depending on why and how you love someone else and are loved by someone else. By itself, love is never enough to sustain a relationship." quoted from markmanson.net
Have Realistic Expectations About Relationships and Romance
We do all dream of a fairytale romance, I always picture myself when I was younger that when I get married I will design my wedding gown, I don't like it all white, I will put some colorful flowers and some silver and gold vines, I wanted it simple and unique. But not all dreams do come true, I got married and didn't walk down the aisle, it was a simple Civil Wedding, and right after I got to kids.
When we are blinded by our love for each other we sometimes neglect the wrongs and mistakes as long as we are happy and in love. But when the time comes little by little the changes are starting to show up, it's like all our senses are awake then some point we are annoyed by little things that sometimes we couldn't bear. It started in the bedroom while you're partner is sleeping and he snore badly. The bathroom is messy, the clothes weren't put properly on the laundry basket, and many more. This shows the reality of having a relationship our parents always told us before we go into this married life " hindi yan kanin na isinusubo, at pag napaso ka madali mo lang mailuluwal". We must learn to adapt and adjust every day and to gain more patience to deal with our partners.
markmanson.net
Talk Openly About Everything, Especially the Stuff That Hurts
To talk about things that hurt is hard to do, sometimes it would be the starting point of misunderstanding. It is because of the pride that each of us holds. There are things that partners have kept for a long time, some are secrets, misunderstanding that has never been solved, having an affair, and things that change the relationship in the long run. The openness of both partners is the best way to have a long-term relationship. Being open to each other incorporates trust, respect, and understanding. For me how I wish it would be like this, and for those who are doing this, I am so happy for you and God bless your relationship.
markmanson.net
Give Each Other Space
Sometimes we both need space for us to relax and be with ourselves and others. Spending time with our friends and going to places without our partner. Is it a wonderful and relaxing feeling, isn't it? but how long do we have space? we have space but every hour we keep on texting our partner and one in a while calling them and listening to what's on the background in the other line lol, funny isn't it? but it is true.
Some couples are hesitant to give their partner a sense of personal freedom. This is due to a lack of trust or fear that if we give our partners too much space, they will decide they don't want to be with us anymore if we give them too much space. They will have many rooms to explore and more confidence to mingle and meet new people. This means that we must trust our partner at all times but not be confident that he/she is free.
markmanson.net
You and Your Partner Will Grow and Change in Unexpected Ways—Embrace It
How do we deal with changes? Mostly change started when there's a child on its way. The priorities and focus will be diverted, not unlike before our husband is our priority but now we are much more focused on our children than our husband. Then here comes the mood swings, tired from work, tired from taking care of the kids and house chores, irritable and dissatisfied even with small things. All the changes keep popping up, can we handle it?
Some of the reasons they fall out of their marriage it's because of the sudden change in their relationship. They say "nakakasawa na din palaging paulit-ulit nalang ang ulam sana makatikim naman ng iba". But it's the person you are referring to not a clothes or food that we can instantly change.
markmanson.net
This could be all for now, I hope this might help and if ever you want to get some other ideas about this you can visit the site bellow:
Thank you for lending me your time, for the new ones please do read my previous articles don't forget to like and upvote if you want 😀. Have a wonderful day to all😘.
http://www.beingbridget.com/best-article-love-relationships-ive-ever-read-need-read/
This is my own idea and explanation, some words and pictures are taken from the site and already stated above.