Sometimes I read a few simple lines and they stay in my mind the whole day. This post was one of those. It said that sometimes two people are good, sincere, and truly love each other… but they are just not meant for one another.
At first, this sounds strange.
How can two good people not work together?
But when I thought deeply, I realized this is very true. In life, especially in relationships, goodness alone is not enough. Love alone is not enough. Even sincerity alone is not enough. There must be understanding. There must be patience. There must be consistency.
I have seen this in real life. Two people can care for each other deeply, but their temperaments are different. One reacts quickly, the other stays silent. One wants attention every hour, the other shows love in quiet ways. Slowly, misunderstandings grow. Not because they are bad people. But because they are not aligned.
And this is the painful part — sometimes nobody is wrong.
We always try to find a villain in every story. But in many real stories, there is no villain. There are just two humans who tried… but could not balance each other.
The post also talked about “jane wale” and “nibhane wale” — those who leave and those who stay.
This part hit me more.
Because staying is a choice. Leaving is also a choice.
When things are easy, almost everyone stays. When life is smooth, love feels strong. But real character shows in difficulty. When misunderstandings happen. When ego is hurt. When distance comes. That is when you see who wants to fix things and who wants to escape.
I am not saying staying is always right. Sometimes leaving is necessary for peace and self-respect. But there is a big difference between someone who tries and fails… and someone who never truly tries.
On hive also, I see something similar in a different way.
Many people say, “I support you.” “We are a community.” “We grow together.” But true support is not in words. It is in actions. It is in consistency. Commenting regularly. Encouraging in low times. Guiding new users without expecting something in return.
A community does not survive on beautiful captions. It survives on continuous effort.
Just like relationships.
Sometimes we blame fate and say, “We were not meant to be.” But honestly, sometimes we were not ready to grow. We were not ready to adjust. We were not ready to accept flaws — ours and theirs.
Love is not only emotion. It is responsibility.
It is easy to fall in love with someone’s smile. It is difficult to accept their anger. It is easy to promise forever. It is difficult to stay when forever becomes complicated.
And still… I believe every relationship, even the ones that do not last, teaches something.
Some teach patience.
Some teach boundaries.
Some teach self-worth.
Some teach what we truly need in a partner.
And maybe that is the real purpose.
Not every love story is meant to end in marriage. Not every connection is meant to stay forever. But every experience shapes us. Every heartbreak makes us a little wiser — if we are honest with ourselves.
Instead of asking, “Why did it end?” maybe we should ask, “What did it teach me?”
Because life is not only about finding someone who loves you. It is about becoming someone who understands love deeply.
If you are someone who stays, stay with dignity.
If you are someone who leaves, leave with honesty.
But whatever you do, do not play with someone’s emotions for temporary comfort.
At the end of the day, we all want one thing — someone who chooses us, not just in good times, but in difficult times too.
Maybe that is what real “nibhana” means.
And maybe that is why sometimes two good people are simply not meant to stay together — because love is not just about being good. It is about being compatible, mature, and ready.
That is my reflection for today. I would love to hear your thoughts — do you believe love is about destiny, effort, or both?