One divorce lawyer says...
A wife appointed me to handle her divorce case from her husband, with whom life had become impossible, and she asked to obtain guardianship of her child, whatever the cost. During the court session, each of them showed the other party’s faults, which he had previously corrected in order to anger him more. He complained about her lack of interest in herself and her excessive weight after giving birth. While she followed a harsh diet before the court session and changed her appearance, which contradicted his description, she complained of his miserliness and his unjustified anger over the most trivial details, while he had spent a lot to hire the best lawyer to handle his case. The surprise was that he was calmer than what she described. There was a difference between the image that he showed. They drew it for each other and what appeared in front of people. When I asked her about the reason for that, she told me that she had changed herself to make him feel remorseful for leaving her, while he underwent psychological sessions to reduce the extent of his anger and tension.
The dilemma here is that neither of them thought about taking these steps during marriage, but rather turned them into weapons of revenge. She deprived him of her beauty, which enhances his masculinity, and left herself a victim of neglect. As for him, he was scarce in emotion and material, angry all the time and did not take the trouble to improve himself in order to continue. Their lives, and this is the bitter truth that we live in today, we consider obvious concessions as insults, even though if we knew the true meaning of marriage, divorce would not have become so widespread in homes.