Kada ljudi kažu šta im smeta ili kada se ne slažu sa vama ili kada vas kritikuju, da li znate šta je zapravo najveći uzrok ljutnje?
TON u glasu odnosno NAČIN na koji vam je neko nešto rekao! Da, to je razlog. Dva različita čoveka mogu da vam kažu nešto neprijatno ali na dva načina. Na jednog ćete se sigurno naljutiti iako reči i nisu tako grube, a na drugog nećete jer je taj drugi pravi umetnik da nešto saopšti. Mirnim glasom uz osmeh. Na taj način kritika ne zvuči tako strašno. Ljudi koji u dijalogu viču, viču jer se ne razumeju, daleko su unutrašnjim bićem. Ljudi koji se razumeju pričaju tiho, lagano, završavaju razgovor lagano kao što pada sumrak. Mirno i prirodno.
When people say what bothers them or when they disagree with you or when they criticize you, do you know what is actually the biggest cause of anger?
TONE in the voice or the WAY someone said something to you! Yes, that is the reason. Two different people can say something unpleasant to you but in two ways. You will surely get angry at one, even though the words are not that harsh, and you won't be at the other, because the other is a real artist to communicate something. In a calm voice with a smile. That way, criticism doesn't sound so terrible. People who shout in dialogue, shout because they don't understand each other, are far away from their inner being. People who understand each other speak quietly, slowly, ending the conversation as slowly as dusk falls. Calm and natural.
Razgovori izmedju ljudi su kao ulice.
Mogu biti jednosmerni, dvosmerni, bučni ili tihi.
Conversations between people are like streets.
They can be one-way, two-way, noisy or silent.
Naravno, tome nas niko nije učio. Retki ljudi su privilegovani ovakvim vaspitanjem. Dugo sam se uzbudjivala kada me neko kritikuje. Zašto je to tako? Najčešće jer smo i sami bili kritikovani kao deca. Tako su nas naučili. Da li ste primetili da kada vam nešto kaže prijatelj koji vas bezuslovno voli, ne naljutite se? Možda takve ljude nikada niste sreli? Šteta. Kada nešto želite- kažite.
Kada vam nešto smeta- kažite.
Kada nekoga volite- kažite.
Kada vam nešto nije jasno- pitajte.
Of course, no one taught us that. Few people are privileged with such an upbringing. For a long time, I got excited when someone criticized me. Why is it so? Most often because we ourselves were criticized as children. That's how they taught us. Have you noticed that when a friend who loves you unconditionally says something to you, you don't get angry? Maybe you have never met such people? A pity. When you want something - say it.
When something bothers you - say so.
When you love someone - say it.
When something is not clear to you - ask.
Zašto je to bitno? Ako nešto što vam smeta odmah kažete, reagujete, neće biti tenzije a sagovornik nema argument da se naljuti. Ako se i naljuti- njegov problem. Samo recite jasno i mirnim tonom. Ako vam to postane navika, nikada nećete biti frustrirani i ljuti. Tako krčite put do stećnog načina života. Kada ste uznemireni, isto je kao kada gledate svoj odraz u vodi. Ako ubacite kamenčić, voda će se zatalasati i praviti krugove. Videćete iskrivljenu sliku sebe ali ako sačekate, voda se umiri, videćete sve kristalno jasno. Tako je i u komunikaciji. Budite mirni, sačekajte da se voda smiri, tada pričajte. Mirni ljudi su privlačni. Kada vam je jasno šta želite i kažete mirnim glasom, vrata se otvaraju.
Why is that important? If you say something that bothers you right away, you react, there will be no tension and the interlocutor has no reason to get angry. If he gets angry, it's his problem. Just say it clearly and in a calm tone. If you make it a habit, you will never be frustrated and angry. This is how you pave the way to an acquisitive lifestyle. When you're upset, it's like looking at your reflection in water. If you insert a pebble, the water will ripple and make circles. You will see a distorted image of yourself, but if you wait, the water calms down, and you will see everything crystal clear. It is the same in communication. Be calm, wait for the water to calm down, then speak. Calm people are attractive. When you are clear about what you want and say it in a calm voice, doors open.
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Don Miguel Ruiz je napisao četiri sporazuma koja ako primenite, mnogi ćete sebi da olakšate komunikaciju.
Evo koja su to četiri sporazuma:
Don Miguel Ruiz wrote four agreements that if you apply, you will make communication easier for yourself.
Here are the four agreements:
- Besprekorno koristite svoju reč
- Ništa nemojte shvatati lično
- Učinite sve što možete
- Nemojte stvarati pretpostavke
- Use your word flawlessly
- Don't take anything personally
- Do everything you can
- Don't make assumptions
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I dok sam razmišljala na ivu temu, ugledala sam natpis kafea- “Fine”.
And while I was thinking about this topic, I saw the sign of the cafe - "Fine".😌
Ima li lepšeg znaka da idem u dobrom pravcu? 😉✨
Otvorila msu mi se vrata “Fine” kafea. 🥰 Idem na kafu i osećaću se fine. 😊👋
Is there any better sign that I'm going in the right direction? 😉✨
The doors of the "Fine" cafe opened for me. I'm going to have a coffee and I'll feel fine. 😊👋
Pozdrav od Anke vragolanke.
Greetings from Anka vregolana!