"Eni, can you talk to me"
"Eni, why are you sulking?"
"Eni, are you sure you're fine?"
These are little out of the many questions that comes with being an extrovert.
If you keep to yourself for too long, people assume something is wrong somewhere and they try to fill up the "imaginary vacuum" in your life. Lol.
Being an extrovert is a whole lot, lol. And yes, we are not trying to put out facade of what we are not. This is who we are, but sometimes, we really want to just observe too. And when people meet you in one of such observing mood, you will do a great job having to explain to them that you're really fine, you're just not in that "chatty" mood.
I could remember an experience I had in school. I'm a Sangpleg actually, that is a combination of being a sanguine and a plegmatic. A sanguine is someone we will naturally call the "life of the party" (my own sanguine never go party though😅). They have so much energy to dispense. Really high spirited and the sweetest part is that, their energy is really contagious. You can't be around them and be sad, it is not possible.
A plegmatic person on the other hand possess a calm demeanor. They also enjoy social gathering, but in a small measure. And yes, plegmatic leans more towards introvertism.
So that day, I had to be in church for a meeting with some of my people. Immediately I got there, I sat down quietly, and was listening just like any other person. I jotted down, I stood when everyone had to stand, I behaved like a normal person. Lol.
But I didn't know, my people were looking at me. Maybe they were expecting snide remarks during the meeting or that I will be making unnecessary fuss to make them laugh or, I don't know what they were thinking really 😅.
Immediately the meeting ended, people started asking, "Eni are you fine?" I had to look back that maybe there is another Eni that I didn't know of. Sure enough, it was me that was being spoken to. So I answered in the affirmative.
But they didn't believe me o 😅.
To me, it was weird. Because why not? What made you think I'm not fine.
And according to them, I sat too quietly and I wasn't in everyone face.
Lol 😆.
Can you people stop it already. Yes, I'm a sanguine, but I have sense too na, and I sure know when to come into conversation. I know when to stop talking and I know how to read the mood in a gathering. Life isn't all play right?
It took me a lot of time and effort to make them know that I'm really fine. And I'm just in the mood of "observing and reflecting"
And in a way, I feel like this has made extroverted people want to put up a facade of being happy all the time, so that people won't have to ask them questions.
But that is not true! You can't be happy 365 days in a year na, when you're not happy hour 😂.
Yes, there are times that your extroverted friends are going through a lot and they may not want to talk, and you just have to push till they spill, fine. That is a different case entirely. But that they are not shouting everywhere and in people's faces doesn't mean they are sad. Stop pushing and trying to find out what is not lost
Trust me, it is really tiring! And yes, in as much as we love to be in your space, we enjoy our space too.
On behalf of my other sanguine, I say "we are fine!" Allow us to breatheeeeee 🤲😂.
