Some guys are just there in the relationship like John the Baptist, preparing the way for someone greater than them to come and take over the relationship they've invested and built for years.
This fact is one of the main reasons why I'm trying so hard not to be like Arsenal Football Club in any relationship because it won't go well with my lineage. Imagine clearing a bush, planting the maize, and when it's time to harvest, a very ugly monkey steps out from nowhere and sweeps off the corn.
Imagine nurturing a girl, gave her good home training that her parents didn't give her, only for a 15-year-old internet fraudster to come and sweep her off with his b*stard money.
Funny enough, we have a lot of people in this category; some of them are aware of their position as forerunners, while others are yet to know.
I know of a friend (a faraway friend) that had a relationship with a girl when she was in school, he sponsored almost everything, and towards her year of graduation, an 'already made' man showed up and collected her with ease. There was no struggle at all. The handover was done in a grand style, with the tears of my friend turning into whine like it happened in Galilee.
Meanwhile, this my friend noticed earlier when the 'already made' took his first slide-in, but he overlooked it.
You see why I want karma to be striking anyhow and instantly? But no, it wouldn't!
If karma has been up to task, these girls won't have the mind of serving breakfast (Heartbreak) to Genuine guys.
But I don't blame the ladies anyways, it's naturally like that; they must chop, chop, and chop till the final guy arrives, either by miracle or pregnancy.
During my third year in school, one of my friends was nurturing his girlfriend for marriage after school. He would go on to correct her on 'this and that', teaching her how to prepare some traditional special meals, and to crown it all, he bought an expensive phone for her.
My friend was not into internet fraud, so to bring a huge amount of money to buy a phone for her was a big deal.
"Haaaaa! You went far to buy this expensive phone". I frowned at my friend immediately I heard he bought phone for her, but he said she's his future wife, and he can do anything for her.
Just so suddenly, this girl got her wings spread widely on social media, which brought a series of suitors to her ways.
My friend noticed how they'd snatched his potential wife away through the phone he bought. I expected him to seize the phone from her, but my friend didn't react; instead, he said, He'll continue to be good to her even though they won't marry at the end.
For sure, he continued his good work, providing heaven and earth, with the intention that maybe her senses would bounce back. He kept being her temporary husband till the 'main husband' secured the girl with pregnancy. I think this my friend deserves an Oscar award as a forerunner.
We have a lot of us (guys) in this forerunner stand; they know that the chances of marrying the lady they're buying heaven and earth for are 1%, but they keep believing in change because change is constant.
The worst thing is that these guys are not getting the 'benefits' to match up with their spending and expectations because they believe that "once we've seen ourselves now, it won't be enticing again when we get married". You get that?
Maybe there is a reward for being a forerunner
I once wrote something about the unavailability of karma when it comes to relationship issues.
If you think that because
ladies that you are supposed to marry are always breaking your heart by dumping you for another
so therefore, God is moulding a spec for you
Bro, don't be surprised to meet assistant devil at your final bustop
Thank you for reading.