Hey guys,
Feels good to be here.
Certain things happens to us so we could learn and also understand that we ought to be ready at all times. Trust is one thing that is difficult to build,and very easy to break,and if it gets broken by the way, we should'nt kill ourselves,though it hurts deeply but we have to understand that we are humans,and betrayal or disapointment is part of the tools in life's lesson and growth as well as building stronger and better relationship,though it might be difficult to do that,thus we ought to be considerate in whatever decisions we take concerning betrayal or disappointment.
Though disappointment from a trusted friend hits differently because it’s like breaking something that we didn’t even know it could break.Betrayal especially when it’s from someone you've opened up to,counted on,or thought had our back suddenly turn their back,hurts more.
Being disappointed or betrayed by a trusted friend can be a painful experience as earlier said,because it brings physical,mental and emotional breakdown,In situations as such our ability to manage and cope with such really counts,Although its often difficult, but to get over it,we have to forgive by acknowledging and validating our emotions and feelings,we should be able to communicate it with honesty,care for ourselves physically,emotionally,and mentally for quick recovery,also consider if to reconsider the relationship by setting boundries or change it,but we should understand that no one is perfect.
Hence,understanding that disappointment is normal,It's okay to feel disappointed,and it's a natural part of relationships but we have to be courageous to forge ahead inspite the pains,and forgive by letting go,and that is possible by being honest in our communication,though difficult but it's possible.
From my experience,where i was batrayed by a very trusted friend,i did'nt dream that she could do that to me,i was deeply hurt,betrayed and angry and it affected me physically,emotionally and mentally,i came to discover that dwelling in the memories of what she had done only brought more pains to me,so i decided to let go and forgive her,it was at point that i started talking to her again,and i had to asked her why she did that,she confessed that her intentions was'nt to hurt me,but she was only looking out for me,i told her the dept of pains her actions brought to me,and we were even with that, up till date she is still my good friend,i realise that forgiveness is a great tools that brings quick healing,though others might not be as mine,but i believe that forgiveness can cure the pains,although its not automatic,rather it's a process,but how fast the process could be is dependent on us to work it out,because i see unforgiveness as a load or chain,and it's only forgiveness that can lift the load or break the chains.
I often believe that things happens for a reason,and if our concerntration is only on the pains those things have caused us,we won't make progress nor grow,but in the midst of the pains we should be able to see the brighter side of those things which is to learn and to grow,often times we get carried away in our convience,so those things will happen that we could learn and grow.
Though there is no justification for disapointment or betrayal,but in most cases such may be stem from unmet expectations,broken promises,or even perceived failure to support,thus understanding this requires acknowledging the impact on our emotions and from our friend's perspective and that is can be achieved through forgiveness and communication.
In everything it is important for us to remember that we are not always perfect,we only strive for perfection,that is why its importance for us to forgive now and also in advance.
This is my response for aprilinleo daily promp.
