I'm not someone who has been through an interesting experience such as child birth but I sure have come across alot of women who have, I had heard and seen countless stories concerning child birth that at this point I feel like I can really tell what it feels like to an extent.
When I was much younger I always thought having a baby was fun through out but with the kinds of experiences people are having, I'm not so sure.
Alot of women complain of hormonal imbalances but nobody seems to care about the trauma some of them go through, they're only happy to see the baby and that's all.
My acquaintance recently had a baby boy; she's not someone with whom I have lengthy chats, but when I asked her how she was doing, I mean, herself, she burst into tears and said I was the first person who seemed worried about her well-being.
The others had only inquired about her son, said a word of prayer for him, and then walked away.
Many males are likewise unsure how to handle their ladies at this period. Men whose partners suffer from postpartum depression may notice their wives withdrawing from love and tenderness — not just sex, but also the friendship that comes with being in a partnership. These women tend to be the exact opposite of who they were before child bearing.
Another aquaintance said she was on the verge of throwing her baby away, while another said she didn't enjoy motherhood until her child was over a year old. Did that surprise you? Many ladies are in this situation.
Nobody warns you that there may be no joys in parenting until your child is at least a year old, and in some cases even older. Nobody warns you about the hormonal shifts and lack of sleep. Nobody tells you about your heavy breasts, persistent sadness and low moods, lack of enjoyment and interest in the wider world, low sex drive, lack of energy and feeling tired all the time, difficulties bonding with your baby, withdrawal from social interactions, and frightening thoughts – such as about hurting your baby.
Although several books have been written on how to prepare for marriage, there is still a knowledge gap on how to care for yourself after delivery.
We all tend to focus on the newborn and follow the cliché that a newborn brings blessings into the family, of course I believe this is true but nevertheless, many women, including males, have had very different experiences. The arrival of a new child means a significant shift in schedule, lifestyle, communication, and household tasks, literally every area of their lives and some times neither parent is usually prepared for the troubles that comes with it.
We overlook the mother, we forget to check in on her and see how she's doing with the new baby. Many of us would be more concerned with knowing the child's sex than with the mother's emotional well-being.
We're worried by the fact that she had a female child after having two previous female children. We are anxious that after seven years, she is having a male child. Oh! And there are those who only seem concerned when the child's naming ceremony approaches.
We don't actually care, but we pretend to, so we ask when the child will be named so we can brag about how large and plump our baby was for a week.
Those who appear to be concerned about the new mother are doing so in order to compare her birth to their own. She is not a "Jewish woman" who gave birth vaginally. They're mainly concerned about why she hasn't gotten back into shape yet, since they have and that's just very despicable.
There are lots of ways we can help women like this, but the husband of any woman that has just delivered a child should try as much as possible to be handy and domesticated around the house, this will help your wife. Alter your baby's night shift rocking periods so that your wife can get some rest. Be aware of her emotions and pay attention to her as she speaks. Now is not the time to Keep late nights or become the house's authoritative boss, this can destroy her completely.
Are you aware that there are some chores that you should not delegate to your wife? Alot of chores actually.
When I read or hear males say they can't change diapers or even hold their child, it pisses me off, I mean that's ridiculous! You're a shame to humanity as a whole, o! My buddy! Go ahead and study! You can do better please.
This is more like creating awareness, do please the next time you see that woman who just but to birth, please inquire about her well-being, be sincere and genuine, it will go along way in improving her mental state.
If you're a husband whose wife is suffering from PND, I hope this article has helped you in some way. I appreciate you for taking time to read it.
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