Saludos mi querida comunidad de 
Greetings my dear motherhood community, I was anxious to write again, but for reasons beyond my control I stopped for several days, however, I had already thought about the topic below, I am very excited and filled with joy to share this piece of love that represents in my family the father figure. What many call responsible parenthood, and the list of requirements that all this entails is a topic that generates much controversy, at least in the Latin culture, and by my ancestors, the macho position was always predominant, where mom was always present and dad absent, and this not only because of the work schedule, simply because mom being a woman had the responsibility to take care of the children.
En consecuencia, deseo contarles mi experiencia junto a mi esposo de como se ha desarrollado dicho papel en casa con nuestra niña, y como ambos hemos generado ese equipo tan necesario para poder funcionar y lograr objetivos como familia. Creo que he sido afortunada con el papá que le tocó a mi niña, en ocasiones he comentado que es una niña de carácter fuerte e impetuosa, lo que no es tan fácil de manejar, si no fuera porque papá desarrolla un gran rol dentro del hogar, la historia sería otra. Al llegar la niña a casa, si yo no tenía mucha idea de cómo sería, mi esposo menos, a veces lo veía paralizado por no saber qué hacer, y con temor a cometer alguna torpeza, es bastante difícil adaptarse a la llegada de un bebé a los cambios de horarios, la nueva rutina y todo lo que la misma conlleva.
Consequently, I want to tell you my experience with my husband of how this role has developed at home with our little girl, and how we both have generated that team so necessary to function and achieve goals as a family. I believe that I have been fortunate with the father that my daughter has had, on occasions I have commented that she is a child with a strong and impetuous character, which is not so easy to handle, if it were not for the fact that Dad plays a great role in the home, the story would be different. When the child arrived home, if I did not have much idea of how it would be, my husband less, sometimes I saw him paralyzed for not knowing what to do, and afraid of committing some clumsiness, it is quite difficult to adapt to the arrival of a baby to changes in schedules, the new routine and all that it entails.
Visto de esta forma, es todo un reto asumir la paternidad con responsabilidad, pero tampoco es una tarea imposible, creo que lo único que no puede hacer papá por su bebe es darle pecho, pero de resto tiene muchas responsabilidades por delante, y para un padre que ama no lo ve como una carga, todo lo contrario, es satisfactorio ser parte del desarrollo de sus hijos. En relación a esto, cuando el padre se involucra va aprendiendo sobre todas las necesidades que requiere tanto el bebé como la mamá. En nuestro caso cuando yo amamantaba a la niña, papá estaba preparando algo de comida para mamá, o esperando el momento para poder sacar los gases y dormirla, así la niña podía generar esa conexión y mamá podía descansar la espalda.
Seen in this way, it is a challenge to assume parenthood with responsibility, but it is not an impossible task, I think the only thing that dad can not do for his baby is to breastfeed, but otherwise he has many responsibilities ahead, and for a loving father does not see it as a burden, on the contrary, it is satisfying to be part of the development of their children. In relation to this, when the father gets involved he learns about all the needs that both the baby and the mother require. In our case, when I was breastfeeding the baby, dad was preparing some food for mom, or waiting for the moment to let her pass gas and put her to sleep, so the baby could generate that connection and mom could rest her back.
Dentro de este marco, papá siempre y cuando está en casa se ocupa de las labores mientras solo mamá podía amamantar y calmar a la bebé, por supuesto, que a medida que pasa el tiempo y la nena iba creciendo y no dependía tanto de mamá, papá aprendió a alimentarla, bañarla, vestirla, hacerle el bolso a la hora de salir, aunque al principio y aun ahora hacer el bolso le resulta complicado, por lo general siempre falta algo, pero son acciones que aprecio por su cuidado y atención.
Within this framework, daddy always and when he is at home takes care of the chores while only mommy could breastfeed and soothe the baby, of course, as time goes by and the baby was growing and did not depend so much on mommy, daddy learned to feed her, bathe her, dress her, pack her bag at the time of going out, although at the beginning and even now packing her bag is complicated for her, usually something is always missing, but they are actions that I appreciate for their care and attention.
Luego del destete la conexión entre nuestra nena y su papá es mayor, desde que dejó la teta ella solo busca a su papá para que le haga su tetero, lo que me parece fabuloso, y desde allí la participación de papá se ha acentuado aún más, ambos se duermen en la noche muy temprano y al amanecer también se levantan muy temprano, tienen horarios sincronizados hasta para ir al baño en ocasiones. Ella siente la libertad de decirle a papá que la lleve al baño a realizar sus necesidades o a bañarse, que le haga algo de comida, que le cuente una historia para dormir, que la acompañe a jugar con sus peluches e incluso que se acueste a su lado para lograr el sueño. Así es papá en la casa, por supuesto que no es perfecto, muchas veces se equivoca y comete errores, dicho de otro modo, papá también está creciendo y gestando un nuevo ser, capaz de atender las necesidades de su bebé sin sentir que puede perder autoridad o tener pensamientos machistas sobre la crianza de un bebé. Por ahora me despido mis amados lectores, hasta una próxima publicación.
After weaning the connection between our baby and her daddy is greater, since she stopped breastfeeding she only looks for her daddy to make her bottle, which I think is fabulous, and since then daddy's participation has been even more accentuated, they both go to sleep very early at night and at dawn they also get up very early, they have synchronized schedules even to go to the bathroom sometimes. She feels free to tell daddy to take her to the bathroom to relieve herself or take a bath, to make her some food, to tell her a bedtime story, to accompany her to play with her stuffed animals and even to lie down next to her to fall asleep. This is how daddy is at home, of course he is not perfect, many times he makes mistakes and makes mistakes, in other words, daddy is also growing and gestating a new being, capable of attending to his baby's needs without feeling that he can lose authority or have macho thoughts about raising a baby. For now I say goodbye my beloved readers, until a future publication.
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