HOLA AMIG@S. ENCANTADA DE PARTICIPAR CON MI POST POR PRIMERA VEZ EN ESTA COMUNIDAD, DESDE HACE MUCHO TIEMPO QUERIA COMPARTIRLA. ESTÁ DIRIGIDA A LAS MADRES DE HIVE, PERO TAL VEZ A ALGÚN PADRE LE LLAME LA ATENCION ESTE ESCRITO Y DECIDA PARTICIPAR. SE TRATA DE CONTARLES MI EXPERIENCIA PERO TAMBIÉN LLEVARLES UN MENSAJE DE REFLEXIÓN. QUIZAS LES SIRVA A QUIENES ESTAN EN LA ESPERA O A QUIENES RECIENTEMENTE LO SON.
HELLO FRIENDS. I’m glad to PARTICIPATE WITH MY POST FOR THE FIRST TIME IN THIS COMMUNITY, FOR A LONG TIME I WANTED TO SHARE IT. IT IS for TO HIVE'S MOTHERS, BUT PERHAPS SOME fathers WILL CATCH THE ATTENTION OF THIS WRITING AND DECIDE TO PARTICIPATE. IT'S ABOUT TELLING YOU MY EXPERIENCE BUT ALSO BRINGING YOU A MESSAGE OF REFLECTION. MAYBE IT WILL BE USEFUL TO THOSE WHO ARE WAITING TO BE A MOM OR THOSE WHO RECENTLY ARE MOTHERS.
MI ROL DE MADRE EMPEZO DE UNA MANERA DIFICIL POR EL HECHO DE QUE NO PUDE TENER A MI PRIMER HIJO EN EL MOMENTO EN QUE LO DECIDI JUNTO A MI ESPOSO, NOS TOMO CIERTO TIEMPO PORQUE AL PRINCIPIO TUVE 3 PERDIDAS. DURANTE ESE TIEMPO QUE NO LOGRABA CONCEBIR, LEI MUCHO SOBRE EL TEMA DE LA MATERNIDAD, ENTONCES ME CUESTIONE ¿QUÉ TIPO DE MADRE QUIERO SER?
MY ROLE AS A MOTHER STARTED IN A DIFFICULT WAY DUE TO THE FACT THAT I COULD NOT HAVE MY FIRST SON AT THE MOMENT I DECIDED TO DO IT WITH MY HUSBAND, IT TOOK US A SOME TIME BECAUSE AT THE BEGINNING I LOST 3 PREGNANCIES. DURING THAT TIME THAT I WAS NOT ABLE TO CONCEIVE, I READ A LOT ABOUT THE SUBJECT OF MOTHERHOOD, THEN I QUESTIONED MYSELF WHAT KIND OF MOTHER DO I WANT TO BE?
DEFINITIVAMENTE LEI MUCHOS LIBROS Y ARTICULOS SOBRE MATERNIDAD Y CRIANZA. SI BIEN ES CIERTO QUE NADA EN ABSOLUTO TE PREPARA PARA TAL ROL, ESO ME HA SERVIDO DE MUCHO, Y AUN SIGO LEYENDO.
I DEFINITELY READ A LOT OF BOOKS AND ARTICLES ABOUT MOTHERHOOD AND PARENTING. WHILE IT IS TRUE THAT NOTHING AT ALL PREPARES YOU FOR SUCH A ROLE, THAT HAS HELPED ME A LOT, AND I'M STILL READING.
CUANDO DIOS LO DISPUSO FUI MADRE POR PRIMERA VEZ, DE UNA NIÑA Y AL CUMPLIR 2 AÑOS, DECIDIMOS INTENTAR TENER UN SEGUNDO HIJO Y LO LOGRAMOS MUY RAPIDO, NOS SORPRENDIO MÁS Y, ENHORABUENA, FUE VARON. EN ESE MOMENTO, NOS PLANTEAMOS QUE PARA TODO LO REFERENTE A NUESTROS HIJOS TENIAMOS QUE HABLARLO Y PONERNOS DE ACUERDO, NINGUNO PODIA DESAUTORIZAR AL OTRO. ACTUALMENTE LA HEMBRA TIENE 17 Y EL VARON A PUNTO DE 15.
WHEN GOD DECIDED SO, I WAS A MOTHER FOR THE FIRST TIME, OF A GIRL AND WHEN I TURNED 2 YEARS OLD, WE DECIDED TO TRY TO HAVE A SECOND SON AND WE ACHIEVED IT VERY FAST, WE WERE MORE SURPRISED AND, CONGRATULATIONS, IT WAS A BOY. AT THAT MOMENT, WE CONSIDERED THAT FOR EVERYTHING RELATED TO OUR CHILDREN WE HAD TO TALK ABOUT IT AND AGREE, NO ONE COULD DISAUTHORIZE THE OTHER. CURRENTLY THE FEMALE IS 17 AND THE MALE IS ABOUT 15.
DEFINITIVAMENTE NUNCA QUISE SER SOBREPROTECTORA PERO SI PRECAVIDA. TAMPOC ME GUSTA LA IDEA DE NIÑOS MALCRIADOS, LOS CONSIENTO PERO NO LOS PREMIO SI NO SE LO MERECEN, SANCION ADVERTIDA SE CUMPLE, PREMIO OFRECIDO SE OTORGA. Y EN ESE SENTIDO NO HE PASADO MALOS RATOS, CUANDO PUEDO COMPLACERLOS LO HAGO Y CUANDO NO, ASI NO LO ENTIENDAN, LO ACEPTAN.
I DEFINITELY NEVER WANTED TO BE OVERPROTECTIVE BUT I WAS CAUTION. I ALSO LIKE THE IDEA OF SPOILED CHILDREN, I CONSENT THEM BUT I DO NOT REWARD THEM IF THEY DO NOT DESERVE IT, THE WARNED SANCTION IS FULFILLED, THE OFFERED PRIZE IS AWARDED. AND IN THAT SENSE I HAVE NOT HAD A BAD TIME, WHEN I CAN PLEASE THEM I DO SO AND WHEN I CAN'T, EVEN IF THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND IT, THEY ACCEPT IT.
SIEMPRE HE PROCURADO PONERLES LIMITES, TRATANDO DE INCULCARLES QUE NO SE PUEDE IR POR LA VIDA COMETIENDO ABUSOS, MALOS TRATOS, DISCRIMINACIONES, NI HACERLOS NI PERMITIR QUE SE LOS HAGAN. HE PROCURADO QUE SEAN CONVERSADORES CONMIGO ACERCA DE SUS COSAS, LOS ACOSTUMBRE DIARIAMENTE A QUE PODIA INDAGAR EN SU DÍA, PARA QUE SE COMUNICARAN SIN MIEDO NI PENA DESDE PEQUEÑOS.
I HAVE ALWAYS TRIED TO PUT LIMITS ON THEM, TRYING TO INCULATE THEM THAT YOU CANNOT GO THROUGH LIFE COMMITTING ABUSE, MISTREATMENT, DISCRIMINATION, OR DOING THEM OR ALLOWING THEM TO BE DONE TO YOU. I HAVE TRIED THAT THEY BE CONVERSATIVE WITH ME ABOUT THEIR THINGS, I GOT THEM USED DAILY TO WHAT I COULD INQUIRE IN THEIR DAY, SO THAT THEY COULD COMMUNICATE WITHOUT FEAR OR PAIN FROM CHILDREN.
HE TRATADO DE NO TENER TABUES, DE HABLARLES LO MAS REAL POSIBLE Y DEJARLES EN CLARO LO BUENO PERO TAMBIÉN QUE LA MALDAD EXISTE, PARA QUE SE CUIDEN. EN OCASIONES CUANDO ME HAN TOCADO SITUACIONES, AHORA DE ADOLESCENTES, PROCURO APLICAR LAS MISMAS ESTRATEGIAS, LA PRIMERA ES LA COMUNICACIÓN, Y NO SIEMPRE ES EFECTIVA. PERO YO ESPERO, INSISTO, LES DOY SU TIEMPO, ME TOMO UNA PAUSA, HASTA QUE SE ARMONIZA.
I HAVE TRIED NOT TO HAVE TABOOS, TO TALK TO THEM AS REALLY AS POSSIBLE AND MAKE IT CLEAR TO THEM WHAT IS GOOD BUT ALSO THAT EVIL EXISTS, SO THEY CAN TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES. ON OCCASIONS WHEN I HAVE BEEN AFFECTED IN SITUATIONS, NOW AS A TEENAGER, I TRY TO APPLY THE SAME STRATEGIES, THE FIRST IS COMMUNICATION, AND IT IS NOT ALWAYS EFFECTIVE. BUT I WAIT, I INSIST, I GIVE THEM THEIR TIME, I TAKE A PAUSE, UNTIL IT IS HARMONIZED.
LA REFLEXION QUE QUIERO TRANSMITIR POR OTRA PARTE, ES SOBRE ALGO QUE NOS AFECTA MUCHO ACTUALMENTE, EL ALCANCE DE LA TECNOLOGÍA Y REDES SOCIALES. LAMENTABLEMENTE AUNQUE NOS FACILITA LA VIDA Y NOS COLOCA MÁS CÓMODOS, TAMBIÉN JUEGA UN PAPEL EN CONTRA, ESPECIALMENTE CUANDO NO ES CANALIZADA. NO PODEMOS NEGARSELA PORQUE VIVIMOS EN UNA ERA TECNOLÓGICA PERO TAMPOCO PODEMOS PONERLA EN SUS MANOS A TAN TEMPRANA EDAD Y SIN CONTROL.
THE REFLECTION THAT I WANT TO TRANSMIT ON THE OTHER HAND IS ABOUT SOMETHING THAT AFFECTS US A LOT CURRENTLY, THE REACH OF TECHNOLOGY AND SOCIAL NETWORKS. UNFORTUNATELY EVEN THOUGH IT MAKES LIFE EASIER AND MAKES US MORE COMFORTABLE, IT ALSO PLAYS A ROLE AGAINST IT, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT IS NOT CHANNELED. WE CANNOT DENY IT BECAUSE WE LIVE IN A TECHNOLOGICAL ERA BUT WE CANNOT PUT IT IN THEIR HANDS AT SUCH AN EARLY AGE AND WITHOUT CONTROL.
COMO MADRE NO SE ME HA SALIDO DE LAS MANOS, PERO COMO DOCENTE HE VIVIDO DE CERCA LOS ESTRAGOS DEL USO Y ABUSO DE LOS TELEFONOS, TABLETS, IPODS Y VIDEO JUEGOS EN LAS MANOS DE LOS NIÑOS DESDE MENOS DE 1 AÑO DE EDAD. PROBLEMAS DE SALUD, VISUALES, DE POSTURA, MOTRICIDAD, EMOCIONALES, ENTRE OTROS. NO LES PONGAN A SUS HIJOS EN SUS MANOS ESE TIPO DE ARTEFACTOS A TAN CORTA EDAD. TENEMOS QUE DOCUMENTARNOS, DE LO CONTRARIO LAS PROXIMAS GENERACIONES SERAN INCONSCIENTES Y DESTRUCTIVAS.
AS A MOTHER IT HAS NOT GOT OUT OF MY HANDS, BUT AS A TEACHER I HAVE EXPERIENCED CLOSELY THE BAD EFFECTS OF THE USE AND ABUSE OF PHONES, TABLETS, IPODS AND VIDEO GAMES IN THE HANDS OF CHILDREN SINCE LESS THAN 1 YEAR OF AGE. HEALTH, VISUAL, POSTURE, MOTOR, EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS, AMONG OTHERS. DO NOT PUT YOUR CHILDREN IN THEIR HANDS OF THOSE TYPES OF DEVICES AT SUCH A YOUNG AGE. WE HAVE TO DOCUMENT OURSELVES, OTHERWISE THE NEXT GENERATIONS WILL BE UNCONSCIOUS AND DESTRUCTIVE.
DESDE MI EXPERIENCIA APROVECHO ESTE ARTICULO A MODO DE REFLEXIÓN, COMO MADRES, TIAS, ABUELAS O DOCENTES, HAGAMOS TODO POR PROTEGER A NUESTROS HIJOS DESDE LA CONCIENCIA DE LO QUE QUEREMOS Y ESPERAMOS DE ELLOS CUANDO YA NO ESTEMOS A SU LADO.
FROM MY EXPERIENCE I TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS ARTICLE AS A REFLECTION, AS MOTHERS, AUNTS, GRANDMOTHERS OR TEACHERS, LET US DO EVERYTHING TO PROTECT OUR CHILDREN FROM THE CONSCIOUSNESS OF WHAT WE WANT AND EXPECT FROM THEM WHEN WE ARE NO LONGER BY THEIR SIDE.