Phrases that we cannot say to our children

In this world so hectic and at the same time with so much stress, work, the economy and at the same time the pandemic of covid 19, we live a great part of stress that if we do not neutralize it we can destroy ourselves and those who have our around, among them our children, those little ones who are a beauty but a little restless that sometimes make one annoy without them wanting to because they are little explorers who see the world very different from us, in those annoyances we can say phrases that **NO LET'S SAY TO OUR CHILDREN**, it is for them that before calling attention to your children, let's wait about five minutes, take a deep breath, meditate on what words we can use to talk with our children. Because in those moments of great annoyance we can say words that can greatly harm the development and self-esteem of children. This time I will tell you about some phrases that can harm the development of our children.

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Stop crying

When children feel that they are attracted to their attention, their first feeling is to cry, when we say this to our children we are cutting off their expression, even in a loving way that we tell our children not to cry, or we should do it because this child will grow up without being able to have a way of expressing their emotions or even managing it properly, since when they cry they will be expressing their feelings of frustration, sadness, rage or anger.

We must not compare it to anyone

Each child is unique, we should not make a comparison or just the same as your brother or a family member, by doing this we are creating in our child a way of feeling less valued and respected causing long-term problems of self-esteem and motivation, by making them feel that younger than another person we are creating a child with low self-esteem and little security, at the same time we create a feeling of anger against that person who compares or envies him that he does everything well. To see believe that we are doing well by comparing it to someone else is the worst thing we can do as a parent, because we are not providing any support but it will frustrate our children.

You'll see when we get home

This is a very typical word heard where we wake up our children when they get home that they will be reprimanded, with these words we are making our children feel the fear of coming home, or that they hate the home that they should love because it is the place where the children take refuge they feel safe, but by threatening them to come home, what they will want is to wish they were outside of it.

You never do anything right

This is another word that is widely heard, this word makes us discouraged from doing things every day, or even telling us things because what we are always doing is condemning him, instead of teaching him how to do things, we judge him as we do. adults we are not mistaken they can also do it. This word remains in his brain, the attitude taken by these children will be not to make an effort to learn or improve since, after all, he will believe that he is not capable of doing anything well.

You are bad

This word is very hurtful to children, we must not say that children are bad, we must explain what he did wrong, and not immediately accuse him with being a bad child, we must explain what he has done wrong, he must not do it. We are making our children believe that they are defective, that there is nothing good in them. For those we must correct this word.

This is not for us as a parent to rectify ourselves, not to draw attention to our children when something is wrong, but rather that we must find the right way and the right words to not hurt our children, but to sit with them and talk, it is the best way to be able to transmit security and confidence to our children.