Hello everyone! Wishing all is well while reading this.
Motherhood has changed me a lot. 12 years ago, when I had my first child, Yuri. I was 19 at that time when I figured out that I'm going to be a mom, and I was 20 when I gave him birth. I never imagined that life would be so challenging in all aspects. His dad at that time was 23, jobless, and I encouraged him to look for one so he could support us. He hasn't been able to find it even after days and months have passed. All I feel are worries and regrets. Accepting the reality that life is not good at this time is the only option I have.
After 9 months, I finally held and kissed my firstborn. That was an amazing experience! Who would have thought that giving birth is like cracking your bones 10 thousand folds?🤣 But I am so blessed for being able to be a mom. Months have passed by, but I don't see any signs that my son's father would find a way to support us. He is actually asking for help from his father in order to support us.2015, we had our second son, and 9 months after I decided to end up what's between us…
I focused on finding work, and thank God I was able to get one. We separated, and he moved to Manila. I have never heard of him since then.
In January 2020, my childhood friend suddenly messaged me, and I don't expect that he will add color to my life. We exchanged messages and calls daily because he was working in Manila at that time. I can sense that he cares for my kids because every time we have video calls, he will look for my two sons and talk with them and ask how they are. Nothing beats this kind of happiness when you see someone who loves your kids as their own.❤️🥹 Last June 2020, he decided to resign from his company for which he had worked for 10 years due to COVID 19. He became a very good stepdad. We are not married yet, but we now live under the same roof.
Last May 2024, my firstborn completed his primary school and received medals! I cried a river when I saw him wearing his toga.🥹 After he received his certificate, he hugged me and said, “Thank you so much, Mama.”❤️ He also hugged his stepdad and told him, “Thank you Papa, for being my dad.”
My realization is that how come there are men who can't stand their obligation as a father to their kids? They can't even provide financial support; how much more emotional? While others play their role as step dad but bravely love the kids as if they are their own. We have been together for 5 years now and are looking forward to more sorrow and happiness together!
That's all for today and I hope to share more stories in the near future!