Every mothers want the best for their children. The dream of seeing them grow up happily with good health, and whole is what every mother wants. But sometimes, what seem like love to us is actually a bad thing and that is when parenting done with good intentions becomes the very thing that breaks a child and destroys them rather than builds them.
And the truth of it is that bad parenting can leave lasting scars on a child’s heart and mind, the little mistake we don't count can come back and hunt us a big time. It doesn’t always come in the form of abuse or that. Sometimes it’s neglect, emotional unavailability, harsh criticism, or controlling behavior that quietly chips away at a child’s self-worth.
In the early years, children are always sensitive and incredibly impressionable which makes them look to their parents for love, guidance, and a sense of safety. When these basic emotional needs are not met, the effects can so be devastating and the children might go the wrong way.
Don't say a word that will hurt your child emotionally because a child who is constantly belittled may grow up to believe they’re never good enough no matter what they do, the will always have inferior complexity, the child that is ignored might struggle to form a healthy relationships because they’ve never felt truly seen. Moreover, don't love your children in a wrong way, conceding their wrongdoing is not love it is you encouraging them to do more bad things.
Your way of parenting will shape how your child will view the world and their place in it and sadly, these effects often last well into adulthood. The most heartbreaking part of it is that many parents don’t even realize they’re causing more harm to their children. Don't repeat the same toxic patterns you grew up with to train your children, there are more better way.
Show them love but not in the wrong way, let them know when they make mistakes so that the will make amendments and not repeat the same thing. Don't concede their crime so that they won't grow beyond what you can handle. Good parenting isn’t about being perfect, nobody is, all this is about being present, patient, and willing to grow. It's recognizing when we’re wrong, apologizing to our children, and showing them how to be kind and not just to others, teach them how to be kind to themselves.
But the thing is have you ever wondering if you’ve made mistake, nobody is above that, we all know make mistakes and know that you're not alone. What matters the most is what you choose to do next and that is the real thing. Are you ready to make amendments because healing is possible for both you and your child. Let’s break the cycle because our children deserve it.
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