When I was a child I thought being a mother was all about having a baby, a hitch free ride😀😀!!
Don't blame me I was naive
Imagine my surprise when I discovered that being a mother was not a hitch free ride, but rather a road that has bumps, gaps and sometimes causes flat tire.
In 2017, my elder sister was working with a company that shuffle morning and afternoon shifts. After her maternity leave elapsed, she asked me to help take care of her baby, Her son was just two months then. I was ecstatic, I mean how hard can it be to take of a two months old baby.
didn't know I was in for a big shock, the greatest eye opener of my life
The first week was smooth, I was full of energy and his dad was also around to help. I respect Father's who are involve in their children's life.
The charade ended when his dad went back to work and I was alone in my babysitting job. And it all begin, sometimes he will just keep on crying even after feeding him, playing with him, petting him; no matter what I do he just won't stop crying, then I will start crying too.
lame, but didn't know what else to do.
There were days when I wanted to be alone but can't because I have a baby to cater for. I was frustrated, sad, tired, lost😥😥, and 😠angry. Blamed myself for helping my sister, blamed the fact that I was yet to be accepted to university. Applied to some university prior to babysitting, no admission was offered, so yea, this contributed to my frustration.
Then I call my mom and pour out my frustrations to her. She listened to me, then, explained what motherhood means. How it was beautiful, at the same time difficult and frustrating; how mothers make sacrifices everyday. After she asked if I knew what my sister was going through, going to work, leaving her baby behind, wanting to be with him and yet needs to provide for him. The veil over my mind was pulled down and reality slipped in, it was like I became an adult over night.
Motherhood was nothing I imagined it to be, was not a hitch free ride, it was more than having a baby, it was more about love, sacrifices and strength. Once my mentality changed, it was easier to take care of him, easier to deal with the situation and I became happier.
*Motherhood, indeed cause flat tires and is no smooth ride *
Here is a picture of my nephew and his baby sister
This picture was taken when I was babysitting my nephew
I look like a child but believe me I was already an adult just on the smaller side though.
Taken on his second birthday.
He's like my first born, I have this special love😍😍 for him, probably because I took care of him as a baby.