Algunos hijos cuando son niños dicen que quieren ser como sus padres cuando crezcan. Imitarlos y parecerse a ellos. Pero otros, por el contrario, dicen: “cuando sea grande, ya verán”, como una amenaza para los padres. Es por esta razón, que hay que dar el ejemplo, dentro y fuera del hogar. Ser la persona que ellos desean. Como dicen por ahí: "predicar con el ejemplo". En los primeros años, se moldea su carácter, y es ahí donde hay que inculcarles valores éticos y morales.

En la actualidad tenemos que aprender junto a nuestros hijos, sobre todo a precisar ¿qué es lo que quieren? Asimismo, creo que el problema no es la crianza, sino lograr comprender qué sienten y descifrar su mundo. Es muy complejo y un reto, pero no imposible.

Hay que hablarles claro y raspao, como decimos los venezolanos. De la gente mala, los monstruos y sobre darles confianza para que hablen y digan lo que sucede. Algunos padres, cuando los niños atraviesan la etapa de dejar los juguetes y entrar a la adolescencia, entran en pánico. Una actitud que considero inadmisible, porque desde todo punto de vista. El adolescente es su hijo, ese niño que criaron y educaron.

Los padres ponen todo su empeño y dedicación en la crianza de sus hijos. Le han dado todo lo material y mucho amor. También comprensión, y establecer límites sin maltratos ni imposición. Entonces, me pregunto.

¿Qué sucede? En donde fallamos como padres. Creo que en realidad no es que fallemos, sino que hay circunstancias que no dependen de su crianza. Vi una serie en Netflix, recomendada por usuarios de la comunidad #Movies&Shows, que se llama “Adolescentes” y que me ha dejado impactada, al ver cómo un hijo puede desviar el camino y convertirse en un asesino. Sobre todo, el hecho de no sentir ningún remordimiento.

¿Qué sucede en la psiquis de un adolescente?

¿En qué momento, se produce el cambio? Será cierto que el internet es un peligroso para las mentes de los seres humanos, sobre todo de los niños y adolescentes. Este tema es motivo de discusión y hay muchas opiniones. Estefanía Esteban publicó un artículo el 16 de mayo de 2018, en la página guía infantil, titulado: “Los niños y el acceso a Internet”, donde da su opinión y algunos consejos importantes:

”Todo este mundo virtual, inmediato y fascinante puede generar a un niño compulsivo, nervioso, y adicto, si no existen límites y una supervisión adulta…” Para más información visite aquí

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Some children when they are kids say they want to be like their parents when they grow up. Imitate them and look like them. But others, on the contrary, say: “when I grow up, they will see”, as a threat to their parents. It is for this reason that you have to set an example, inside and outside the home. Be the person they want you to be. As they say: “lead by example”. In the early years, their character is molded, and it is there where you have to instill ethical and moral values.
Nowadays, we have to learn with our children, above all, how to determine what it is they want? Likewise, I believe that the problem is not the upbringing, but understanding what they feel and deciphering their world. It is very complex and challenging, but not impossible.
We have to speak to them clearly and raspao, as we Venezuelans say. About bad people, monsters and about giving them the confidence to talk and say what is going on. Some parents, when children go through the stage of leaving toys behind and entering adolescence, panic. An attitude that I consider unacceptable, because from every point of view, the adolescent is their child. The adolescent is their child, the child they raised and educated.
Parents put all their efforts and dedication in the upbringing of their children. They have given him/her everything material and a lot of love. Also understanding, and setting limits without mistreatment or imposition. So, I ask myself.
What's going on? Where we fail as parents. I think it's not really that we fail, but that there are circumstances that don't depend on their upbringing. I watched a series on Netflix, recommended by users of the #Movies&Shows community, called “Teenagers” and it has left me shocked, seeing how a son can go astray and become a murderer. Especially, the fact of not feeling any remorse.
What happens in the psyche of a teenager?
At what point, does the change occur? It will be true that the Internet is dangerous for the minds of human beings, especially children and adolescents. This topic is a matter of discussion and there are many opinions. Estefania Esteban published an article on May 16, 2018, on the page child guide, entitled: “Children and Internet access”, where she gives her opinion and some important advice:
"This whole virtual, immediate and fascinating world can generate a compulsive, nervous, and addicted child, if there are no limits and adult supervision....” For more information visit aquí
There are actually so many things that children and adolescents are dealing with that I think it's not just the Internet. Not everything should be attributed, because there are many factors that also affect behavior. What will be the future of society and the planet? There are parents who give up their dreams and their lives to give the best to their children. They lack nothing, not even love. So what is happening? I do not know and it is irresponsible of me to talk about something I do not know.
However, I think it is important to note that, as they say: “every head is a world”, and some people tend to be influenced by others. Especially in the early stages and adolescence is when we are most susceptible. They can be influenced by friends, groups, adults, and others. I think this is what parents need to act on. To prevent children from holding grudges and saying:
When I grow up, you'll see...
Motherhood Parents, if other people, groups and the internet can get into their psyche and induce them, and drive behavior change, I think parents can do it too. You just have to have a lot of patience. Above all, you have to change the way you look at society and immerse yourself in the current reality that your children live, such as: social networks, technologies, video games, new trends, among others. They must understand that society has changed, and they must be prepared for the future.
"How strange it is that young people always think the world is against them when in fact it is the only time for them."
(Mignon McLaughlin)

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Children, from the time they can remember, must be taught to be kind, empathetic with the world around them, people, nature, the environment and animals. Not to look down on others for having a disability or condition. Not to discriminate and much less to bully. To give them tools to solve problems and let them solve them. Encourage them to face their challenges and achieve their goals. Also to assume responsibilities.
Remember that children are sponges that absorb everything they see and hear around them. On the other hand, it is necessary to help them discover their strengths to face any adversity and danger, at school, at home and in an emergency. Create safety codes and locate safe places or points for family gatherings
I hope you put my tips into practice, and that they serve as a guide when you need it.
“Adolescence is a fun time in life, because you think you know everything, and you don't get to the point where you realize you know almost nothing.” (Anthony Kiedis)

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Las 100 mejores frases sobre la Adolescencia.

Top 100 quotes on Adolescence.