Quien de niño no fue víctima de algún otro que en pleno cumpleaños quisiera soplar la vela sin ser el homenajeado? O que al contrario, fuera el travieso que buscara la manera de ganarle al dueño de la fiesta, el honor de apagarla?

Creo que en algún momento de la vida hemos pasado por eso, y la cuestión es como enseñamos a nuestros hijos a reaccionar cuando eso sucede. En mi caso, mis dos hijos han sido quienes se dedicaban a soplar las velas ajenas, teniendo que salir al rescate pues el cumpleañero siempre se molestaba cuando esto sucedía.

En cada momento vi la oportunidad de conversarles sobre los espacios propios, el abuso, la importancia del respeto y sobre todo, la necesidad de contenerse aunque tengan muchas ganas de hacer algo que saben que no es lo debido.

Por supuesto, a esa edad quizás eran conceptos muy profundos, pero que igual iban calando dentro de su cabecita.

Mi hijo mayor, que era experto en soplar velas, dejó de querer cumpleaños con amigos o en la escuela. Sus razones eran muy simples: no quería que nadie le metiera el dedo a la torta, ni que le soplaran la vela. Lo que no contaba era que tenía al "enemigo" en casa, ya que al nacer su hermanito, era él quien buscaba hacer la travesura.

Ahora que están más grandes, es el mayor que quiere hacerlo, solo por molestarlo, por lo que el pequeño ha decidido que quiere bengalas en su torta, pues ahí nadie podrá salirse con la suya. Cuestión de astucias.

Y ustedes de que equipo eran: los que soplaban o las victimas?

English Version

Who as a child was not victim of another that in the middle of a birthday wanted to blow the candle without being the one being honored? Or that on the contrary, was the naughty one that looked for the way to win the owner of the party, the honor of blowing it out?

I think that at some point in life we have all gone through that, and the question is how do we teach our children to react when that happens. In my case, my two children were the ones who dedicated themselves to blowing out other people's candles, having to come to the rescue because the birthday boy always got upset when this happened.

At each moment I saw the opportunity to talk to them about their own spaces, abuse, the importance of respect and above all, the need to contain themselves even though they really want to do something they know is not right.

Of course, at that age perhaps they were very deep concepts, but they were still sinking into their little heads.

My older son, who was an expert at blowing out candles, stopped wanting birthdays with friends or at school. His reasons were very simple: he didn't want anyone to stick their finger in the cake, or blow out his candle. What he didn't count on was that he had the "enemy" at home, since when his little brother was born, he was the one who looked for the mischief.

Now that they are older, it is the older one who wants to do it, just to annoy him, so the little one has decided that he wants fireworks on his cake, because there nobody will be able to get away with it. A matter of ingenuity.

And which team were you on: the ones who blew or the victims?