I rampaged the whole net that day and the following day but i still didn't get it, let alone stumbled on what i was surfing for meanwhile, i was to prepared to speak as a supporting speaker in a seminar dubbed "The Danger of Premarital Sex". One of the intentions or purposes of the programme was to tailored answers that matched the rising questions that has led to confusion of secondary school students regarding the subject matter.
Though, i had a scanty idea of what or what not to say but that seems not sufficiently okay for me. So, i went ahead to put up a status on my WhatsApp describing my present dilemma of needing a comprehensive guidebook about sex education for secondary students. However after much waiting, only one person replied to my status and apparently, what he said was not in any way better.
The tone at which he asked this sounded more of "why did she want to teach student such a obscene stuff " Kids don't need to know about this, they know nothing, they're innocent " "Isn't she trying to expose them to what it's not"..................
Intriguing enough, the idea he had is a typology of what a large percent of parents have too and this is where we all got it wrong as caregivers, wives, sisters, mothers, husbands, brothers, nephews among others.
Her voice obstructed my siesta yesterday, i could sensed her burden, bitterness and pains in my sleep. I opened my eyes to at least see the person who has been lamenting of how she's tired of life and how life has been ruthless to her since she was a kid, only to see no one but my radio set. Apparently, i tuned in to a programme only to find myself in a La- La Land, i slept off. Long story cut short , she's in her early forties, unsettled and still fighting her demon, the demon which is her incessant sexual urge. She reportedly narrated how she was molested as a child by her guardian's husband and children. Simply put, the man takes turn on her at least four times in a day coupled with the fully grown kids of the same woman.
Uhmmm! she tried to tell this woman but she never listened to her, she usually ended up being shunned by her as if she was saying nonsense. After she has had it to the brim for two whole years, she skated away owing to the advice of an aged new neighbour.
But sadly, the deed has been done, they've succeeded at implanting a demon that she'll forever offer sacrifice to every now and then.
Enough of the beating around the bush, let me dive into the subject matter and that is, WHO SHOULD TEACH MY KIDS SEX EDUCATION ?
I think it high time we stop shying away from the word SEX because obviously that has done or is doing more harm than good to us.
We all know that, when the purpose of a thing is unknown abuse is inevitable meaning that, we can't blame kids for what they don't know or what we as parents failed to teach them just because we think its unnecessarily or they'll grow to know them.
You're right about they'll grow to know them but I assured you,what they'll grow to know will keep your mouth wide opened that no amount of water would be able to fill. So much of loads of rubbish is flying everywhere, is that what you want them to grow to know?
It's NOBODY ELSE BUT YOU.
You shouldn't delegate this task to anyone but yourself not even close relations. Preach what you what them to know about it, don't at any point try to scare them off with myths because, when they realise you've been lying to them, they would rather confide in an outsider than in you. You don't want that right? So, be sincere as much as possible . Your husband can tend to the boys while you do same to the girls.
That simple?
Yeah that simple, be attentive to them, let them know you care, put off that shoulder pad of a mother or father and become their friends.
Friends shares the silliest of things between each others, it's quite easy to know your kids more when you're not just their parents but their favorite person.
I know this subject for long has been treated with so much levity in these past years but i trust you to do better now.
"Train up your child in the way he should grow and when he is old, he will not depart from it".
To be continued............
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