Being a mother isn't the same thing as giving birth to a child. There is a huge difference between being a mother and mothering a child. Because of the misconception of this, many have turned themselves a die hard enemies between them and their children and the fact still remains that until a thorough understanding of what mothering someone and being a mother is been clarified, there would continously be an issue.
Before i continue with this, am Mrhive001. Have been on hive for a smaller time of 2years and as i was navigating through communities on hive i get to see this very wonderful community with wonderful in it, i decided to stop by and drop this. Inasmuch as my gender is male, i understand to an extent what being a mother is and here i am with a bit of it.
We all come from different homes with different upbringing, values and understanding of what the world we live in. Our understanding of what the world makes us respond to it the way we act and react, behave and give values to. Because their is need for the contiunity of life, we are given birth to, coming in as different genders and here we are today.
To every family with children, there are always special ones to their parents and maybe because of the way these special children behave, talk and hold the family. These special children that are so dear becomes much more closer to their parents such that their parents can give account of what they are doing at any point in time and can even swear unbehalve of them in their absence.
On the other hand the more reason why parents choose to select some of their children as favorites is because of the way they where given birth to, what happened during the process and what their birth signifies. Regardless of the fact that the parents might not tell the child this but some parents holds this as what it is and takes it as a hold to why they choose the child as the favorite.
The Main Deal
The closeness of a child or children to their mom instead of the father regardless of the father being the one responsible for their upbringing and their biological father is based on the facts below.
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The mom might be having a heart to heart interaction with the child or children every now and again. Most times what children or a child is one that can talk with them the way the classmates and close friends does. If the mom lets say for example after the children or the child went to school or anywhere and is back asks the child or children how the place he or she went to is, the child or children observation and what is his or her take base on the place he or she went then concludes by asking if anybody wanted beating the child or children up. The continuity of this builds a connection such that even when the mother doesn't ask next time, the child or children would always want to talk about it.
[b]
If the mom tries to understand the child or children regardless of what happens or is about to happen. If a child or the children commits a crime and the whole world being against them, the mom trying to be on the same page and side of the child then in the process corrects the wrong and establish the right. Building an strong understanding with your child or children establishes the courage in the children or children making them know they aren't alone.
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Living and proving that you are their mentor regardless of what and who they are, what they want to choose as a career, telling them something about what they have chosen. Given them the support where needed and assisting them to be the better version of themselves only on the right things makes the love between a mother and child know no bounds.