My son is not a mamma's boy from the very beginning. Not even when I was his primary source of food.
But that's okay. It doesn't bother me at all. Because seeing his relationship with his Dad make me feel proud than anything. Whenever some say this to me, like aww...you are not his favorite parent! I always say mom is something else, we got a relation with our child that doesn't need to build rather it's already something we have before we give birth to them.
Maybe my son is not too attached to me now, at this age but gradually he will. I'm proud that I made the room for his dad to make a quality attachment with his son.
He made this piece of art seeing the cover of his coloring book. When I asked him, where's mom? He felt a little embarrassed and draw me beside him. Quote — unquote, I never make him feel guilty for preferring his dad on everything.
Let me give you some examples of what I'm talking.
My son and husband eats together, my son usually wait for his Dad but never for me if it's his favorite snacks. He usually asks his dad to help him in the washroom, he sometimes co-sleep with his dad. And always keeps aside some of his snacks every single day for his dad to enjoy after coming back from the office. But usually never do these things for me.
As I have said earlier, all these never makes me feel bad or anything. I find this more helpful to build a healthy father-son relationship. I see our relationship is something that doesn't need recognition because my son is already a part of me.
In my country, it's still a stigma to be actively involved in parenting for a dad. In most households, they don't help in feeding or cleaning the baby. From the very beginning, I made sure my husband do that. And it will never be possible without his willingness. I believe, what he learned and felt from raising his baby boy helps both of them to understand each other better, to build a read good attachment.
I'm not in the race to be the favorite parent and I will never be. Seeing them giggle together, play and spend quality time make my heart full.
