Bendecido día tengan todos los Padres y Madres que hacen vida en la Comunidad de #Motherhood
Blessed day have all the Mothers and Fathers who make life in the #Motherhood Community.
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What I am about to tell you is a bit pedantic and overwhelming for me personally. As I told you before, I am a first time mom of a little 6 month old boy named Maximiliano. My son is my life and I try to give him all the love and help him in his constant learning at his young age. I am a zero materialistic person, I like the minimalist and when I see those houses where a lot of things abound, I get overwhelmed. Both house decorations and tons of children's toys. Is it necessary to clutter a house in this way?
Before we had our baby on this earthly plane, my husband and I had talked a lot about Maximiliano's upbringing and education. We had reached several agreements that I will mention here: - 1. We will use new values in our family. What you don't like about what you have been taught in your home and what I don't like about mine, we will discard. -2. Zero toys for Maximiliano, we will buy only one or two toys for his tree and we will alternate with grandparents, uncles, aunts, uncles and godparents every Christmas to give him something for special occasions. - 3. It is our baby, and our wishes and parenting are respected. We try to raise the baby through respectful parenting. Validating their emotions and that they learn to externalize them in a calm way and understand why they feel the way they do. There are only a few items but I think it was "pretty clear".
Well, his star daddy didn't listen to me and what we agreed on went in one ear and didn't come out the other. By the time I was 22 weeks pregnant, my husband showed up at our house with a 50 cm tall Mario Bros for our baby. I passed it up because we are such geeks and he took advantage of an excellent bargain price. I mean, I don't want to be the bad guy in this movie but then he showed up with another doll, I call it the "Green Peter Pan" 😂 but it's actually called Link from the Legend of Zelda. He's the same size as the Mario Bros and he also bought it at a good price but aha, what had we agreed on?
In addition to this, my dear in-laws are also joining this pitched battle 😐 They want to buy my son every doll or toy. Let's see, I understand that he's their first grandchild, I do. But is it necessary to cram toys into a baby who's barely 6 months old? From my perspective, I don't think so. I grew up with the essentials and have kept it that way throughout my 31 years of life. I was raised with the necessary and essential, I remember it clearly. Wearing expensive brands or clothes is not my thing. But I clearly remember that my parents, if they could invest a little more in a good pair of shoes or clothes that would last longer, they did it. That's normal. But stuffing a child with toys is not.
Before Christmas came to my home, I made the suggestion to my in-laws that if they wanted to give Maximiliano something, they should save the money for the winter sales in January of next year. Well, husband's family is selectively deaf. My father-in-law appreciated one day a stuffed Rex dinosaur that we nicknamed "Rexi". I can't deny that my son loves it. I stayed calm and let it go. A few days later, my mother-in-law showed up with another stuffed animal. This one was a small bear. Then, I realized that I had talked to the wall. She is even a little upset because I wash everything for my son before he touches it because he puts everything in his mouth. But since I haven't washed the blessed stuffed animal, the lady reminds me every time she comes to my house with a tone of disgust. As if I didn't have enough to take care of Maximiliano, I also have to wash stuffed animals!
On the other hand, last Monday we went to do some personal shopping, taking advantage of the Black Friday offers that had already started in several stores. I remind you again that my husband and I are super geeks and whenever we can, we go into toy stores to see what's new and what's on sale. My in-laws were with us. We went to a toy store called "Jugueterías Nikki" in an area called Las Chafiras, here in Tenerife 🇮🇨 My husband wanted to buy a toy for the boy and I said no, we just went in to walk around. He took a dinosaur robot with sounds and wouldn't let go. Well, my father-in-law picked up another toy just like it and he wouldn't let go of it either. My face was a poem 😐 We saw many toys on offer and at the end of the ride they asked me if they could take both and I said no. Already his godfather and his fiancée from Madrid ordered him through the web his Baby Jesus and Three Kings toys. We are still waiting for them. I emphasized to them that Maximiliano already had too many toys, they insisted so much that I told them to change the toy for a didactic one of the Fisher Price brand for the baby. Although they didn't agree with me, they listened to me this time and we only got one toy. I finally won them one!
I want you to understand one thing, don't see me as the Grinch. I love Christmas and I love toys too, but I see it totally unnecessary for a child to have so many toys when in the end they will end up having fun with the pots in the kitchen, because that's just the way it is. stated and true word! I think kids are happy with simple things. They do not know about brands or quality, we adults are the ones who implant such concepts in children that in the end do more harm than good. Because with these eyes and ears that have to eat worms, I have seen children despise a toy or clothes that are given to them because it is not the toy or clothes of such and such brand. What kind of human beings are we raising for the future of humanity? Haven't we already done enough damage to the planet with our carbon footprint from so much buying and buying to keep making big industries rich? I am clear that everyone raises their children as they want and can, but it bothers me when a parent talks to others about how he wants to raise his children and they go over his head. It doesn't seem fair to me. As a family, we should not interfere in the parent's upbringing unless we see the child's life at risk. But if the child's parents, as far as possible, are doing well, let's not interfere where we are not called. Let us admire and be respectful of the parenting of others.
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