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La pre adolescencia en mi hijo autista
Hola Hola
Mi hijo siempre ha sido un niño con buenos modales, simpático, colaborador y hace caso cuando se les da las órdenes, lo sigue siendo, pero con más lucha.
La principal de mis luchas es que tenga higiene corporal, es decir, que se bañe, se cepille los dientes, mantenga su cuerpo limpio y parte de su higiene, es tener sus espacios limpios, su cuarto, cama y mesas.
Cuando lo regaño al no cumplir con sus actividades, me reta y me regaña a mí porque yo lo estoy regañando. Este comportamiento lo ha venido repitiendo desde hace un tiempo.
Dice que yo le hablo feo y mal, claro, porque cuando nos molestamos, levantamos la voz o nos ponemos intimidantes, es normal, yo intento no levantarle la voz, pero si se la proyecto, cosa de que entienda que está siendo regañado (como cuando hablas en publico que debes expandir tu voz para que sea escuchada).
Muy pocas veces pierdo mi cordura, ya que entiendo que si yo hago algo de violencia, él puede repetirlo en el futuro y es lo que quiero evitar.
Mi manera de mejora es hablando, conversando, repitiendo, yo confío en hablarlo, lo malo es que, si yo utilizo palabras que no son, o no soy muy específica, no me entiende o se disocia.
Estoy aprendido a hablar con él buscando captar toda su atención. Ustedes ven a César y creen que no es autista, pero traten de educarlo para que vean lo difícil que es para mí luchar día a día con él.
Lo último que me dijo fue: Me a ponerte reto. Y yo le respondí, que desde que él nació, ha sido mi mejor reto, que todos los días es un nivel distinto y que es mi videojuego favorito.
El mensaje se entendió y se acostó a dormir, jeje
English
Pre-adolescence in my autistic son
Hello Hello
My son has always been a child with good manners, friendly, cooperative and he listens when given orders, he still is, but with more struggle.
The main one of my struggles is for him to have bodily hygiene, that is, to bathe, brush his teeth, keep his body clean and part of his hygiene is having his spaces clean, his room, bed and tables.
When I scold him for not completing his activities, he challenges me and scolds me because I am scolding him. This behavior has been repeated for some time.
He says that I speak to him ugly and badly, of course, because when we get upset, raise our voices or become intimidating, it is normal, I try not to raise my voice at him, but I do project it at him, so that he understands that he is being scolded (like when you speak in public that you must expand your voice so that it is heard).
I very rarely lose my sanity, since I understand that if I do something violent, he can repeat it in the future and that is what I want to avoid.
My way of improving is by speaking, conversing, repeating, I trust in speaking it, the bad thing is that, if I use words that are not, or I am not very specific, he does not understand me or he dissociates.
I have learned to talk to him seeking to capture his full attention. You see César and believe that he is not autistic, but try to educate him so that you see how difficult it is for me to fight with him every day.
The last thing he said to me was: I'm going to challenge you. And I answered him that since he was born, it has been my best challenge, that every day is a different level and that it is my favorite video game.
The message was understood and he went to sleep, hehe
Soy Ana Fuentes💛💛
-Fotos Redmi Note 9S