5 Things: I Wish I Would Have Known about Being Pregnant || Mom Life

I was just 12 weeks pregnant in that picture on the cover, oh what fun times were those…

You’ll see, my boyfriend and I had been talking about stopping birth control so we could try to get pregnant (I don’t know why we said, we since the one getting pregnant was me not him but anyways….) and when we did, I really didn’t expected to be so quickly, since I used to have hormonal issues, but in just over a month of starting trying, there I was having my blood taken to give him the best gift he could ever get on a valentine’s day (yes, that was my gift to him and nope I'm not that cheap but that day I didn’t had any more money to expend lol) a positive on a pregnancy test.

My baby is already 2 years old and I had my tubes cut so I won’t be having any more (unless I'm that 0.001% that gets pregnant even with their tubes cut, yes it has happened and yes, I live afraid of having that kind of luck) but I learn stuff while being pregnant that I think every woman should know about it before actually getting pregnant.
So, here are 5 of what to me are the most important things that I should have known of…

What to Expect When You Are Expecting…

1. It can suck to be pregnant

Yes, even if you wanted to get pregnant, here is the thing, I learn I was pregnant when I was 5 weeks along and until that point the only symptom I had was just me missing my period, then it happen I started to feel weird, I'm not going to say feel bad as it didn’t actually was “bad” more like crappy, I didn’t wanted to get out of bed, I didn’t wanted to do nothing even on the bed, I wanted to just lay there and watch tv all day, my energy was completely gone, and feeling like that made me hate being pregnant, I didn’t like it at all, I obviously loved the fact of having my child growing inside of me, but I hated all the changes mostly hormonal I was having, the lack of energy, the constant feeling bad but not as bad to be taking seriously… and that takes me to fact number…

2. Morning sickness comes in different forms and times

Morning sickness should be call all day sickness, to be honest, I think this was the worse part of my pregnancy and I hated it so much, you hear how morning sickness works with women having nauseas and vomiting on the mornings and that is just for the firsts few months of the pregnancy, LIES! For me started at around week 7 and it wasn’t just in the mornings and it wasn’t technically vomiting, I actually just throw up once or twice during the whole pregnancy, oh but the nausea and the whole I can be standing more than 2 minutes straight or I would pass out, the lack of energy and constant feeling like crap, all day long to me that lasted until the child was taken out of me.
The worse thing about it was when I complained to people about it and they would just say oh but is not that bad you are not throwing up, on the other side with pregnancy it came a calm and maturity for me not to kill people when they did comments like that.

Moving on to…

3. Gender disappointment is a thing but, it will pass

I never was the kind of girl to dream on having a baby, nor did I had names picked or anything like that, but when my bf and started to talk about having one, I wanted a girl, he wanted a boy (cause he is the younger of 5 brothers and has never raise or being raise near a girl so he believes he wouldn’t know how to do it lol), I don’t really know why I wanted a girl over a boy I think I have always loved seeing a guy carry his daughter they look so cute and seeing how my BF was with his nephews and nieces not that he doesn't loves them the same is just he is more delicate and more sweet with the girls and is more tough and strict with the boys, that maybe I fear he would be the same with a son.
So, when I was 12 weeks along and I had to go to my doctor’s appointment, there I found out… Like always my bf getting his way…the kid was a boy omg the feelings of disappointment that I had as soon as the doctor said and show me that without a doubt it was a boy, still make me feel guilty and bad to this day, I faked it till I make it, but the true was I was sad I wasn’t getting a girl, I think I even felt mad, it was weird, I knew I loved him not matter what but deep down my worse fear was that when he was born I would feel disappointed or wouldn’t like him, I don’t know. Maybe it affected me more the fact that I knew I wasn’t going to have another baby, that this was the one and only I don’t know.
Then the day came, once the doctor took him out of me and show me this little guy cover in white gross stuff and blood, I didn’t even though on the subject anymore, and right now while he is laying on the bed sleeping next to me, I think I was crazy to ever wanted to have a girl, cause having a boy is the best thing ever!

His dad loves him and is sweeter to him that he has ever been to me, they look cute as can be together, and I feel like I finally found the prince charming every girl deserves in her life, he is the man I was meant to love beyond anything and will forever be my true love.

So yeah, it passes as soon as you see your child, it doesn't matter the plans and wishes you had, the love for your child will overcome everything.

4. Birth plans sometimes don’t go as planned…

My sister had my nephew just 1 year before I got pregnant, and on the day of her delivery she wanted to have it all natural a vaginal birth, while on the hospital and already 12 hours in labor she changed her mind and asked to have a c-section.

From the moment I got pregnant I knew I wanted a natural delivery, not only it has a better and quicker recovery, is cheaper, I had all planned for it, but on our last doctors’ appointment, she saw that the baby’s hand was getting on the way, he had the umbilical cord around his neck and my acid uric levels on blood were a little high, so she said to avoid any complications from all that I had to have a c-section, oh the disappointment the feeling of anger I got of not getting it my way, I felt like I was being taken away an experience that I would not have again.

At the end it worked out for the better, I do still feel a little disappointed that didn’t got to experience what is like to have a vaginal birth but… on the good side I was able to get my tubes cut out, my baby was born healthy and without any complications and since it was a planned c-section there wasn’t any last minute running, I went to the Red Cross the night before and had my baby the next day at 9.20am, and I always tell people who asks, I may not have push him out of my vagina but I got cut open, organs moved aside to got him out through a whole that it was 10 cm wide, also I expend the next 10 days in pain from said surgery while caring and breastfeeding for the kid, so… yes I think it has as much merit to have a c-section as it is to have a vaginal delivery now.

5. You can ask for a Gentle C-section

Ok this is the thing I regret the most not knowing, once the doctor told me I had to have a c-section, you can have a “Gentle C-Section”, what is that you may ask yourself well…

"In a traditional C-section, the baby is delivered quickly and handed to the pediatricians, but in a gentle C-section, the baby's head is delivered, then slowly the rest of the body is delivered, allowing a bit of a squeeze to get that extra fluid from the lungs expelled, then the baby is placed on the mother's chest and breastfeeding is initiated," – source

In my case it was a traditional c-section, while one doctor push and pulled my guts the other took the baby out, they showed him to me and let me give him a kiss right after they took him out but then they took him away from me to clean him and put clothes on him and allow my doctors to close me, I expend the next 30 minutes away from him, not knowing how far he was or how long would it until I would be able to hold him. Knowing now what I know about the importance of skin-to-skin contact and early attachment to breastfeeding I do feel this would have help making that first night easier.

Cause between the pain I was in and the fact that he was lazy to latch on to my breasts, it was hard for us to start on the whole breastfeeding thing that first night, even so that I consider for a moment giving him formula to avoid him getting on a coma for not eating or something like that. So, yes this is something I wish I would have known beforehand. You can ask your doctor for it and if they say no, look for one that allows you to hold your baby as soon as he is out of you!

This are the 5 things I wish I would have known before getting pregnant, some of them I probably couldn’t have change them, but I would have been more prepare on how to handle it. I hope if you are reading this it helps you a little bit, at the end when you finally have the baby in your arms all those up to 40 weeks of pregnancy are WORTHED! and even tho I can't do it again, i wouldnt change it for nothing if it means having my boy with me.

Let me know in the comments if you are pregnant and how far along are you!

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