Don't Like To Be Pregnant? You are Not Alone || Mom Life

So… here I was planning with my boyfriend the having a baby thing and once I found out I was actually pregnant, I was so shocked but excited and nervous af, but the main feeling was happiness, it was what we have being looking for so, why shouldn’t I be happy about it?

Then the days started to pass by and the physical sensations, the emotions, the extra attention (not really, I liked this the most!), the unpredictability, the nausea (omg the nausea!!!), the whole lack of energy and feeling like just a big sack of potatoes, pregnancy is a whole lot, fluctuations in hormones throughout pregnancy can lead to mood swings, I knew that but I was expecting more of a get angry or get sad or get crazy, kind of mood, not a get a “want to stay in bed all day and not even shower” one that lasted the whole time.

The first trimester is said to be the toughest one for many women. When your body is still adjusting to creating a human being, but you are promise that after the 13 week you start to feel better, nope it wasn’t in my case at least, I most say the nausea did got a bit easier to control but the energy never came back.

Is OK to feel this way

It sounds like I'm only complaining, of it was horrible, I hated, but you know what sucked the most when I tried to tell this to my group of friends (all female) they would start judging me and telling me I shouldn’t cause I was supposed to be happy and just enjoy it.

Well obviously, they are not longer my friends, you should be able to speak your mind and your feelings with people who are suppose to be there as friends to support and just let you bitch about it.

The whole complaining was a for me a way to deal with my feelings, the confusion inside me only made it worse since I did want the pregnancy, I did felt love for my unborn child and I was happy to be having him, but I hated to be pregnant I felt miserable and wanted the experience to be over. Good thing I made the right choice for the baby’s daddy, he didn’t mind my complaining all day, nor the whole ball of uncombed hairy mess I was, he was supportive and always tried make it easier for me.

It was hard tho since he had to work and couldn’t be with me 24/7, nor did I had my mom or sister near me.

Deciding I didn’t want another pregnancy

My decision to cut my tubs at the same of my c-section, was mainly motivated for my plans and goals on life and for me and my partner’s vision for our relationship, but there were other factors, the economical one, since we live in Venezuela, a country with a hyperinflation that is so crazy is not even explainable, and the whole pregnancy experience I went through, also added to my decision. I didn’t want to go this one more time.

Does it last forever?

Nope, for me the moment the child was out, I already missed been pregnant, I felt miserable that was true but at the same time I missed, hormones are wild! I knew I didn’t enjoy the whole deal and here I was missing feeling terrible lol.

Does hating being pregnant makes you a bad mom?

NO!!!!! one doesn't have to like the Cacao to like the chocolate! First of all, I took all my doctor’s instructions and followed them like law, I did everything while pregnant to protect and care for my child as any other mom would, cause to me the feelings of hate wasn’t directed at the child at all, but at my body and the crazy things it was doing, and after he was born and I saw his face for the first time I knew I had found the love of my life.

Dealing with the hating…

Well like I said, I liked to complain a LOT! Also, I just did nothing all day, I was lucky enough to have found Steem right at the same time I got pregnant, and even tho I didn’t wanted to do much posting, I started to be part of the awesome community of PALNet spend almost every day in the chat just talking about whatever or helping people, and it helped me keep my mind of things and entertained myself, cause when you are not feeling good, is not of much help to just lay in the bed sucking in all those feelings.

Don't let your feelings in the way of keeping memories

At the end a pregnancy may seem to last forever but it does not, is only 40 weeks TOP, so it will pass, all those feelings of hate will be gone and you will have the little thing in your arms and will know it was all worth it. So, I suggest that even if is annoying and seems like an awful, tiresome thing to do, to take pics while pregnant, you may hated it in the moment but will wish to have a memento of such an important part of your life in the future!

I know I regret, not having more pictures of my belly, the few I got were cause my sister kept telling me I should do it, or I would be really mad later, I thought she didn't understood me and was annoyed by her nagging about it, but now I see it, and she was right.

How was it or is it for you? Did you hate it too? Or are you one of those women that do have the baby glow and feel wonderful the whole 40 weeks?

Do shared with me how did you cope or deal with the feelings towards your pregnancy in the comments!

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