I am a newbie here, I just dive in with this community as of this moment at 10:40 pm as I write this post Philippines time zone. A mom of two, learning to write and trying to earn something through writing. I'm not a professional or a good writer, as I rate myself, but I was just eager and willing to learn from all of you here. So, I'm open to any comments if this post would not be good as you read it.
Have you been ask? Where do you work? And you suddenly take a pause because you didn't know if you answer that question or not. Well, when you have a nice job, it won't be hard for you to answer, but if you were like me, whose struggling to finding a job, and stay at home all the time, you can relate with me, maybe.
Honestly, I'm always been disappointed when someone define a stay ay hone mom, as a jobless person. When indeed, they worked at home 24/7, they are often sleepless at night, watching their babies whose crying. While during the day, they are restless doing tons of household chores. I am sorry if I write my feelings in here, but that scenario often happen. Where moms who are stayed at home as a jobless, well indeed we are totally loaded with jobs without pay.
There was a christmas gathering last December, and the host have called the moms, who are jobless, to go at the center and they gave them fruits and chocolates. I was speaking in behalf of the women who are still hunger for work with pay, but we choose to stay at home with children, so that the family will sustain.Or sometimes, even if we want to work, we are not qualified to be hired because some or majority of us did not acquire a degree of education.
Actually, if a man have found a wife, who can stay at home, he can saved expenses from laundries,cook, nurse and lot more that a wife can do for him. But, its so sad, that sometimes it will not be given appreciation for what they did.
It' not easy to become a full time mom. I know someone, who was a full time mother for so many years, she has no work, no income for several years, just to submit with her husbands will. One day, her husband died, their life changed a lot, she was like a baby who just started to crawl, she cannot be able to support her children. But, she was blessed with wisdom for making used of that they have, like goats.
Women should be independent too, just like what my teacher told me when I was in college."Women should never on their husband always because they don't know what if someday they will break apart, how pitiful a wife can be, that's what my teacher told us many years ago.
For now, that I'm on the certain situation of being a stay at home.
Stay at home means to me as a sacrifice, because I need to focus on my kids and fixing a lot of things at home rather than working outside to earn money. For me, its choice too, because not all women are okay to stay inside the house all the time, mostly, women nowadays are practical, they do business, and work at home. But, its a wise way of being at home mom in this generation. So, its really a sacrificial, but practical as well.
Stay at home mom means to me, as a homebody. Not just because they are just trying to avoid people or people won't like them, but they just prefer to become a homemaker. To closely monitor their kids especially those who have toddlers or a new born baby who needs a special attention as parent.
How do I feel right now, while I'm at home?
Honestly, there are times that I feel bored and tired also, but I guess I don't have a choice at this time. But, I'm happy everytime I see my family and provide everything for their daily needs.
Just a few days ago, one of my friend have fight with her neighbor because she said, that someone spread rumors that she's just sitting at home, and do nothing but wait for her husband's remittance.This was a tough accusation with her, since she was living with her son, and she needs to do everything for their home.
Some moms who are at home are being judged by people that they do nothing. It's not easy to be a person like us, full of work loads at home but unpaid, because we do it all for the love of our family,but often misinterpreted and looked down by others.
Some moms really want to work, but sadly, they had no chance and opportunity. On the other hand, some moms, have been very productive at home, like they are blogging, cooking, online seller and etc. So, it means if we don't have an opportunity, we can make for ourselves, we need to be resourceful at times.
For now, I'm glad to share with you all my thoughts, at least I can set free myself from thinking this things this past few days, because of what happened to my friend.
I hope to learn more in this community with all the mothers.
